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awilley0814
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Bridesmaid who still doesn't fit into her dress.
My bridesmaid bought her dress too small back in April. I told her that I wasn't really comfortable with this, but she bought the dress anyway. Now we are a week away. My wedding is August 13. She still doesn't fit into her dress. Is it rude of me to ask her to not be in the wedding anymore?
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Re: Bridesmaid who still doesn't fit into her dress.
[QUOTE]What are your colors? Does she have any dress that will fit into your color scheme? Does she have a black dress she already owns? It sounds like she's just not willing to work with you. Tell her that she can either fix the dress or she needs to find a back dress to wear. Those are her options.
Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]
This! As for her idea about the red dress, see link:
<a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/attending-wedding/articles/ruin-a-wedding.aspx?page=3" rel="nofollow">http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/attending-wedding/articles/ruin-a-wedding.aspx?page=3</a>
Good luck!
[QUOTE]Yes, she says that she honestly has no idea what to do. She has a red dress that she would love to wear, but red is not in my colors. If she would like to go shopping for a replacement black dress that would be find with me, but she "<strong>doesn't have time."</strong> I'm trying not to freak out, but I can't have her walking down the aisle with a gap in the back because she's not willing to work with me.
Posted by awilley0814[/QUOTE]
<div>Alright to me if you are alright with her getting a replacement black dress and says "no, i don't have time" then she needs to know that she will be out of the WP if she doesn't A. fix the dress or B. get a replacement dress. </div><div>
</div><div>I would leave her a message being as polite as possible, "Hey Friend, I hope you can either alter the dress or find a replacement black dress because your red dress is not going to work as attire for being a BM." </div><div>
</div><div>This is the BMs fault, she is required to get her dress and fit it in the day of. This BM is getting a second chance from the Bride and it obviously too inconvenient for her to do either fixing the dress or finding a new one. So she IS taking herself out because she doesn't want to do either option. If the OP really wants this BM in the WP she can let the BM wear the red dress, but I don't think the OP should HAVE to do this since this BM is not putting any effort into either options. </div>
Your bm is putting you in a tough position. You should request that she buy a black dress or have the one she already bought altered, if she still wants to walk in the wedding. Or she can come to the wedding as a guest, if she prefers. The choice is hers. Tell her the thing that matters most to you, is that she is there, either way.
Good luck.
[QUOTE]ditto em. The bms have one responsibility - to show up on time for the wedding, in the agreed upon dress. Your bm is putting you in a tough position. You should request that she buy a black dress or have the one she already bought altered, if she still wants to walk in the wedding. Or she can come to the wedding as a guest, if she prefers. The choice is hers. Tell her the thing that matters most to you, is that she is there, either way. Good luck.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]
Just pretend I said this :-D This is great advice for your situation.
[QUOTE]ditto em. The bms have one responsibility - to show up on time for the wedding, in the agreed upon dress. Your bm is putting you in a tough position. You should request that she buy a black dress or have the one she already bought altered, if she still wants to walk in the wedding. Or she can come to the wedding as a guest, if she prefers. The choice is hers. Tell her the thing that matters most to you, is that she is there, either way. Good luck.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]
this...
Good luck!
Could she wear some kind of highcover undergarment and shaw/shrug/scarf around her shoulders/back to cover up the zipper gap? (Then again, it's an August wedding..this may only be an option if it's not going to be 100 degrees! we don't wany anyone passing out :P)
Goodluck!