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Wedding Invitations & Paper
MichelleMS4
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Engagement Party Invitation Wording: Cocktails and Hors D'oeuvres, Children 16+ Only
On the invite, how would you say that its a cocktail party and not a dinner party?
Also, we would like to include "children", meaning under the age of 21, but only those over 16. How can we say that elegantly?
Thanks!!!
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Re: Engagement Party Invitation Wording: Cocktails and Hors D'oeuvres, Children 16+ Only
[QUOTE]Retread covered all the bases. But what about the families who have a 12 year old and a 16 year old? Is the 12 year old supposed to stay home by himself or go to a friends while his older sister and parents are at a party?
Posted by Peavy[/QUOTE]
What's so terrible about a 12 year old on his own or with friends for one night? Heck, a 12 year old, especially a boy that age, might even <em>prefer</em> not to attend the engagement party! They can make other arrangements for the 12 year old-or they can decline if it really is so terrible to leave him with a friend.
As for who hosts, no, the couple shouldn't be doing that, but they can be involved in preparations as long as someone else is issuing the invitations, paying, and doing the other duties that hosts would be carrying out.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Party Invitation Wording: Cocktails and Hors D'oeuvres, Children 16+ Only : What's so terrible about a 12 year old on his own or with friends for one night? Heck, a 12 year old, especially a boy that age, might even prefer not to attend the engagement party! They can make other arrangements for the 12 year old-or they can decline if it really is so terrible to leave him with a friend. [/QUOTE]
While it's true that the 12 year old may prefer not to attend, by not inviting him, you're making that decision for him and excluding him while inviting his older sibling. I would rather be the parent who says, "You're invited to the party, but if you'd rather stay at your friend's house, that's fine" rather than telling my child he wasn't invited.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Party Invitation Wording: Cocktails and Hors D'oeuvres, Children 16+ Only : While it's true that the 12 year old may prefer not to attend, by not inviting him, you're making that decision for him and excluding him while inviting his older sibling. I would rather be the parent who says, "You're invited to the party, but if you'd rather stay at your friend's house, that's fine" rather than telling my child he wasn't invited.
Posted by Peavy[/QUOTE]
Sorry, but I'm not sympathetic.
When I was a kid, I was not invited to everything all of my older relatives were. I learned to live with it. Kids of all ages have no right to expect invitations to everything just because their older siblings are invited.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Engagement Party Invitation Wording: Cocktails and Hors D'oeuvres, Children 16+ Only : While it's true that the 12 year old may prefer not to attend, by not inviting him, you're making that decision for him and excluding him while inviting his older sibling. I would rather be the parent who says, "You're invited to the party, but if you'd rather stay at your friend's house, that's fine" rather than telling my child he wasn't invited.
Posted by Peavy[/QUOTE]
Not all kids are invited to all things. And there's a pretty big distinction between 16 and 12. Sometimes older siblings get to do things younger siblings don't get to do. That's life.
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