WR: WWYD? - Advice Needed

Re: WR: WWYD? - Advice Needed

• gmc22 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I really don't see a problem with this... in fact, I don't really understand/agree with the whole 'it's my day' mentality. IMHO I believe that wedding receptions are mainly to thank your guests for spending the most important day in your life with you. At least that has been my approach to the whole wedding - yes, I'm going to add touches and details that I want, but every decision I have made has been based on (or at least with respect to) the needs of my guests...
  
  With that being said, my suggestion to you is - why don't you turn this into something positive? How about doing an 'anniversary dance' and beginning it with your FILs dancing, then a short time into the dance, call up all the married guests to join in the anniversary dance. You can even give a bottle of wine to the couple who has been married the longest or something. That way, you win in that your guests will be involved, and your FILs win in that they get to dance to their song... just a thought! Good luck and hope it works out for you!
  

  
  
  
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• amy727 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  Can they dance to the song and then maybe half way in you two join?  I personally don't see a problem with them dancing alone though.

  

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• pantherRN member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with everything GMC said, including the suggestion.

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• lindsayzeleznik

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I like g's idea of tying it into the anniversary dance.

  

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• cgyvhu member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-pittsburgh_wr-wwyd-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:116Discussion:3a47cd6e-6d01-4c00-9fc2-a7d92a205e38Post:0aa0d3d5-db91-4959-b52e-2e45a7c45fcd">WR: WWYD? - Advice Needed</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>Part of me feels like maybe I am being selfish and should just suck it up because who really cares at the end of the day.</strong> 
  Posted by mrswolf0917[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Looks like you answered your own question!</div><div>
  </div><div>ETA:  I like G's idea too.</div>

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• mm4662

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I understand how you're feeling. I might be frustrated too.
  
  I like G's idea though. It can be the anniv. dance! and people can join.

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• HoneySpider

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I think it's a little weird that they would want to have a solo dance. I'd just have the DJ say something along the lines of "this song is for FI's parents' anniversary" and let everyone keep dancing.
  
  We had the DJ play my parents' "first dance" song but we didn't single it out or anything.
  

  

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• sarilynnep

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with PP... I don't understand the 'it's my day' entirely either. Yes, it is a celebration of your committment to each other. However, the reception itself is for your guests, not just you. I understand not wanting them to have to get off the dance floor for this, but this can easily be avoided by having it before things get crazy on the dance floor.
   
  I'm sure your guests will think it is sweet if the DJ explained that it is to commorate their anniversy which occurred the week before. I also love the idea of having it as an anniversy dance for other couples if your FMIL agrees to it.
  
  At the end of the day- it's 4 minutes out of your entire reception to make your FMIL happy. It is sort of a weird request on her part, but to keep the peace, there really isn't a reason to not let her have that moment.

  

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• Pirata13

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I can see both sides to be honest. I'd go for an anniversary dance kind of thing--maybe start with couples whose anniversary is the same month, then ask everyone to join. The DJ could even say "The bride & groom would like to wish a very happy anniversary to Mr. & Mrs. Jones, who just celebrated their XXth Anniversary last week.
  
  But I think it's a little weird for her to ask for their own dance. To be honest, I had enough time squeezing in our first dance, the Mother/Son & Father/Daughter dance, the bouquet/garter toss (we combined into one with Take Me Out to the Ballgame), and then try to keep things flowing.
  
  I'll be honest, I don't think a lot of people really like to watch the standard dances, much less add more with special requests. Plus, what if OP's parents want to do a dance then? IDK, I think it's cute to see the bride & groom's parents on the dance floor with everyone else, but I'd definitely be heading to the bar if it was a separate thing. I know I'm in the minority here, but things like that and the dollar dance are kind of energy killers. Everyone has to clear the dance floor and it is the most boring thing to watch 75 people line up to dance with the bride &/or groom. That's when I start thinking it's time to leave.
  
  So OP, I say if you want to make one of the slow dances throughout the night an anniversary dance, go for it, but I wouldn't add a dance just for them.

  

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• mrswolf0917

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-pittsburgh_wr-wwyd-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:116Discussion:3a47cd6e-6d01-4c00-9fc2-a7d92a205e38Post:cb39e2d1-e1bd-4d78-9986-7af5500524c0">Re: WR: WWYD? - Advice Needed</a>:
  [QUOTE] <strong>I'll be honest, I don't think a lot of people really like to watch the standard dances, much less add more with special requests</strong>. Plus, what if OP's parents want to do a dance then? IDK, I think it's cute to see the bride & groom's parents on the dance floor with everyone else, but I'd definitely be heading to the bar if it was a separate thing. I know I'm in the minority here, but things like that and the dollar dance are kind of energy killers. Everyone has to clear the dance floor and it is the most boring thing to watch 75 people line up to dance with the bride &/or groom. That's when I start thinking it's time to leave. So OP, I say if you want to make one of the slow dances throughout the night an anniversary dance, go for it, but I wouldn't add a dance just for them.
  Posted by Pirata13[/QUOTE]
  
  This was my thought exactly, I do not think I would want to watch someones parents dance at wedding.
  
  Thank you for the suggestions, I think I am going to try to incorporate it as the anniversary dance with having them start right after dinner and people can join in towards the end. I just hope this makes her happy.

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• JamieK1882 member

  

  April 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with what most people have said. I think its weird they want a solo dance, but an anniversary dance could work. I've even seen where they start with all married couples, then ask those who have been married less than 1 year to sit down, then 2 years, etc until you get the ones married the longes dancing (or I might have it backwards). That might not give her the solo attention she wants, though.

  

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