Busty Bridesmaid!

emilynicole06 · November 2010

Ok, so here it is.....one of my BM, who also happens to be my fiance's sister, is a VERY busty young lady; I am talking 40 GGG! I want all of my girls to wear the same dress, and I have a very cute summery halter picked out from Davids Bridal, she is freaking out because she is afraid she wont fit into it, no matter what we try. She has already looked into a specaily strapless bra that will end up costing more than the dress itself! Does anyone have any ideas of what we could do to avoid a sticky situation??

bablingbrooke · November 2010

Why did you pick out a dress without seeing if your BMs even look good in it? The solution is to find a new dress, or to let them all pick out different styles in the same length and color.

aerinpegadrak · November 2010

What's going to look worse in pictures, an array of happy, comfortable girls, one of whom is wearing a slightly different dress, or a lineup of girls in identical dresses, one of whom is uncomfortable and miserable? I know what I'd choose.

If you really want them all in the same dress and you're not willing to bend on this, then it needs to be one she can wear comfortably without the pain of a lack of support (and I have lots of friends with giant tits, they HURT) or the fear of popping out. Chances are good that a dress that flatters her will also look good on your other girls, but it doesn't really work the other way.

Or you could just allow her to pick a different dress along the same lines as the one you like and save everyone involved a hell of a lot of headache. Identical bridesmaids are going the way of the dodo and the ruffled tux.

emilynicole06 · November 2010

I suppose I have never tossed around the idea of different dresses. I have just always had this idea that they would all wear the same dress, shoes, etc. But its not a perfect world, and like you have said, things are changing.

And by no means am I asking them to buy them now, we are just taking a day and trying their dresses, and hopefully have fun! I don't even have my dress yet, so that is what this trip is really for, and to get an idea about what they will wear, and try to avoid any issues, that way we have time to find something else for them if need be.

aerinpegadrak · November 2010

The other nice thing about letting them pick their own, at least for me, was that the two super-busty plus-sized girls were able to go to a specialty shop and get dresses that were actually designed for their body type, and much more flattering than dresses designed for stick figures and then scaled up. I know they spent a long time looking, but I think they were really happy with what they finally chose.

Summer2011Bride · November 2010

I would try David's b/c from what I've heard, it seems like they have some nice plus-size options. What will look good on this BM in particular will most likely still look good on less busty girls and you can have your same dress still.

If your heart is set on this other halter type dress, have her wear the same color and fabric with a different neckline that is comfortable and flattering on her. No one will even notice.

mbcdefg · November 2010

Pick our your own gown before you even think about theirs. Because YOUR gown will set the tone for the formality and style of the wedding party's outfits, so get yours first.

Once you choose your gown, then worry about the BMs' dresses. Let them try things on ... don't just pick a dress and then pray that it looks nice on them. See what works and what doesn't. (Also remember to ask each girl in private about her budget before you even step foot in a salon, that way, you know what price point you need to stay under.)

It's fine to want matching dresses, but it's unfair for that to be your be-all, end-all option without being even a teeny bit flexible. Let them try the dresses on and voice their opinions, and offer the option of straps if you like a strapless dress for them. It's fine to look around and try to find one dress that'll suit them all, but if it's clearly not going to work then don't just cram everyone into the same dress just for the sake of matching, know what I mean?

And non-matching dresses doesn't automatically equal "totally different dresses" ... many designers offer very similar styles where there's just a slight different in the neckline or straps. My BMs are in two different dresses from the same designer, can you tell? http://i42.photobucket.com/albums/e306/mbcdefg/wedding%20pro%20photos/bpformal.jpg

Please don't require matching shoes. Different women have different feet. Just specify a neutral color (black, silver, gold) and let them pick their own. If you want uniformity, it's fine to specify a style (strappy sandals, closed-toe pumps, flats, whatever). But some girls may be very uncomfortable in the exact same shoe. And if you still want matching shoes, then you need to pay for them. If they all get together on their own, of their own accord, and decide on an identical shoe, then that's fine because it's their choice. If you tell them to pick a matching shoe, then you should pay.

SSaltzman87 · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_busty-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f75f76a0-269b-48e4-b1a2-ad647e2d5724Post:8834cca4-5f6b-4ea9-97ce-c978dd3b9cc6">Re: Busty Bridesmaid!</a>:
[QUOTE]I am super busty too. (28G to be exact) and I would be very sad if a bride picked a dress without seeing if I was comfortable in it. In the larger sizes, bras can get very pricey. Why not give her a color and fabric and let her pick one that she likes. If she's uncomfortable now, that will probably show in the photos. My favorite weddings were the ones where the bride wanted me to feel ok with the dress. I don't like my boobs hanging out and I'm sure your friend doesn't either. Pick a new dress, or get more flexible.
Posted by stina93446[/QUOTE]

YES! THANK YOU!

I'm a 38/40 DDD myself, and trust me-halter tops are not our friend.

In this situation, just give the girls a color, length and designer. It's not worth the hassle or heartache to get them all in the same dress because honestly-you can't.

mana8503 · November 2010

If it's the halter dress I'm thinking about from David's bridal, there's a boat neck dress that matches. I was in a wedding and the bride pick 3 dresses (strapless, halter and boatneck) and let us chose. Since there were 7 of us, it worked out 2 got strapless, 3 halters and 2 boatnecks. She picked the boatneck for me since I'm a 38 DDD. I tried the halter on and HOLY CLEAVAGE! Bride just laughed and said someone should have cleavage since she won't (she's tiny). I felt better and more comfortable being covered up. A lane bryant strapless bra worked.

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Sleeveless-Satin-Dress-with-Scoop-Halter-Neckline-81594_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Shop-By-Color

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Satin-Short-Dress-with-Classic-Boat-Neckline-81591_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Shop-By-Color

anne.azano · November 2010

don't do that to here. J. Crew, aria, and davids bridal all offer the same color in different styles. I did that with my bridesmaids, and each one wore a different dress and they looked great. They don't have to match.

CSTK1910 · November 2010

Has she tried dresses on yet? I have gone shopping with two of my BM's who are pretty average sized, and it's no surprise that they looked good in everything. 2 of my other BM's are quite busty though, so we are definitely not picking anything out until they try stuff on. I doubt we will even bother trying on halters though...I don't want my bridesmaids busting out of their dress any more than they do. And FYI, I HAVE seen someone pop out of their dress.

If it comes down to it, they can put modesty pieces (in the front to cover cleavage or the back to cover a thicker bra), but if you are making the dress look different anyways, you might as well just let them choose one they are comfortable in in the first place. It doesn't actually sound like she has tried any dresses on yet though, so I would start there. You never know what you will find/like!

aprilmelissa1979 · November 2010

Agree with PP's. Go shopping with them and allow them to try on different dresses.
I actually picked out bridesmaid dresses before I picked out my wedding gown(wedding in March 2011). I have a total of 4 bridesmaids and two of them are "busty".

It turned out that they all look great in the same dress. (I personally like the idea of the girls all wearing the same dress, it looks more cohesive to me---Just my own personal opinion) I will be picking out different accessories and shoes that fit the girls personalities.

Just go try on dresses and have fun! You may be surprised that they all like the same dress and it looks becoming on them all.

Happy planning!

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