June 2013 Weddings

Went to a wedding last night, here's what I saw.....

I know everyone likes to hear stuff from other weddings, so here are some things I liked/didn;'t like. Of course, keep in mind, some of these things are just my opinions.

Ceremony: It was outside and the view was gorgeous. It was on the water, they had that cute sign I've seen on Pinterest about Choose a seat, not a side. In the basket where the programs were, there were bottles of Off mosquito spray. Pros and Cons- I like that they thought to provide that and knew there would be mosquitos there (and there were), but who wants to spray off on them when they are all dressed up for a wedding? I am the person that gets bit in a room full of 45 people, but I still didn't want to put that on. I ended up killing a few and with 2 or 3 bites. Also, it was on the water, and it was a little noisy. There were boats speeding by, a dog across the water on a dock that was barking, and planes overhead. It wasn't too bad, and you could still hear what was going on, but something like this would have really annoyed my mom. So if any of yu are picky about that, really work with your venue to ensure there is no noise. There was also very little guidance, we were all just standing around waiting. The invite said 5:30, but the program didn't have it scheduled until 6. This I get, because it was far and there was rush hour, and they started pretty much on time, but at least give refreshments or tell people where to go for the ones who do get there on time.
Vows: I will not be writing my own vows, because we are just not the types to share those private things in front of people and I would feel uncomfortable. However, they wrote their own vows, and they were AMAZING. They were touching, funny, gave us insight into how they met and what they are like, etc. They were funny too while emotional at the same time. I love that you really feel you got to know them as a couple, just by hearing their vows. Something to keep in mind if yu write your own.

Reception: Cocktail hour was actually a cocktail hour and a half. The bride, groom, and BP did some pictures together during the cocktail hour, and for the last 45 min or so, the bride and groom came in and went table to table in the cokctail room to say hi to everyone. There were plenty of tables too, everyone had a place to sit which I think is super important. Anyway, I LOVED that they came in during cocktail hour and did theur "revcieving" there instead of in a line somewhere. It was more comfortable, we could eat and sit while we waited, and best part, when the reception started, the bride danced to all the 1st songs for like the 1st half hour. She didnt have to waste time going table to table in the reception and could instead enjoy her time. I am also have an hour and a half cocktail hour and I will defintely be attending it and saying hi to everyone there (people I overheard talking really seemed to like this too because they had more time to stand up and mingle, go outside and enjoy the view before it got dark, spend time with the bride and groom, etc.) 

Music: DJ was good, lively. What I noticed- he started off the night with Michael Jackson songs, and everyone really liked them. Lots of people up dancing. People also seemed to really like dancing to 60's and 70's music, particularly "Run Around Sue", that "do you remember, (something something) September", the twist, something from that genre. Not as popular- today's hits, like Katy Perry and Sean Kingston. Those tended to clear the dancefloor. The flow of the night was nice: introduce BP, bride and groom come out, they do their 1st dance, break into dance music, people go to their seats for salad, BM toast, and then her brother's did a toast and it was AWESOME. Instead of a regular toast, they did an NCAA bracket-type skit of all the brides old crushes and how they matched up (celebrity crushes, not real people). It came down to the groom vs Bono, and it was hysterical. If you have someone in your WP or family who is creative and funny, I highly recommend letting them plan something. I put FI's 2 best men on the spot about this last night, they have 9 months to come up with something right? lol. She didn't do a father dance (he passed away) so I'm not sure where they would have fit in, but I liked the flow overall.

They had a photobooth and it was so fun. Everyone loved it, we got 5 people in there, there were no lines, and it was not a distraction. It made me feel a lot better about my photobooth, and people were coming up to me saying they hope I have one at my wedding too. e got a copy, and the bride and groom got a copy in a scrapbook. 

One thing I didn't like- They had the run of the place, which was nice, but it spread people out a lot. I think more people would have danced if they weren't hanging out around the bar (which was very big), outside on the deck, or outside on the lower patio. People were out there smoikng all night, sitting out there, doing shots at the bar, and not really dancing. I didn't even see them cut the cake. So keep that in mind if you have a lot of space. 

Another thing, they had a desster spread, I guess like a vienesse but not in a differnt room. They had like 4 different types of cakes, apple pie and icecream, chocolate fondue fountain with fruit and pretzels, pasteries, huge cookies, etc. The cake was awesome, I thought it was wedding cake, but then found out it wasn't which leads me to another con: no one ate any wedding cake. They finally brought slices around to the tables, but we had all eaten dessert already so who wanted more cake? I took a bite, but it wasn't good, and it was a waste. I am going to put effort into tasting and designing my cake, and I want people to eat and enjoy it because it is such a big symbol of our day. I had already decided that I didn't want to offer tons of other desserts, and this finalized that choice. However, people really liked the chocolate fountain, so I might consider adding that with some fruit. But I really want peopel to eat my cake and was sad no one ate it.

All in all, it was a good wedding, we had fun. I would've liked to dance more, so I hope people dance more at our wedding since they will be more confined in one space (there will be the same group of friends there). We got to spend a lot of time the bride and groom and I thought they spread themselves out well and saw everyone.

This turned into a really long post, but I hope it was at least a little helpful to some of you. If anyone has any other questions about the night, let me know. And let me know what you think!!!!!
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Re: Went to a wedding last night, here's what I saw.....

  • Thank you for the recap, that was very helpful! Smile

    I'd be sad about the wedding cake "going to waste" in a sense too, like you said, you work so hard, only to have noone eat it? I expect some people will turn it down anyway (not everyone likes cake, some people are allergic to certain types, etc), but I'm sure the number was bigger due to the dessert table....

    You mentioned possibly doing a chocolate fountain at yours, why not during the cocktail hour? just something I thought of when reading your post Wink

    this also made me feel better about a photobooth too Smile 

    We have a large space, however, in my opinion, if people miss something, they  miss it... as long as I as the bride don't miss something or FI as the groom, then I think we're ok Wink
  • Good news for us about the cake is we can't afford anything more than that, so if people want dessert they'll have the eat the cake, haha. Great recap, very helpful. I wish we could do an hour and half cocktail hour, but our venue contracts out by the hour and we'd be charged extra to add that beyond the alloted five hours. Or we'd have to take it out of our reception time. Maybe I'll beg our coordinator when I meet with her this winter.
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  • The chocolate fountain during cocktail hour is definetly a good idea, I didn't even think of that. Thanks. :)

    cnf, we would probably only have the cocktail hour (like just an hour) if that was what our venue offers, but they actually contract all their weddings for 1 1/2 hour cocktail hours. Not sure why, but they do, so we lucked out there. It was one of the reasons we picked that place. I probably wouldn't pay extra for it, even though I enjoyed it at this wedding. But I would beg, lol. Good luck and I hope she caves.
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  • thanks for posting a recap. Isnt is crazy how much more you notice after you are engaged lol, I notice every single detail. I am also having a chocolate fountain, I am not sure when it is coming out, probably at the same time as cake.
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  • You do a great recap, rmp!

    Who walked her down the aisle? Or did she walk by herself?
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  • Great Recap!  I am thinking of doing the same with the cocktail hour so it is nice to know people liked it.
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  • Thanks for the re-cap! It is funny how much more I notice now that I'm planning my own wedding. We are also having an hour and a half cocktail hour...it's the way our venue does it too. We'll also have a large dessert room. I was thinking of buying small boxes, and asking them to put 2 slices of cake into each box (per couple) for them to take home and eat the next day (or back at the hotel). My friend did that at her wedding several years ago, and I thought it was a great idea.
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  • It's funny, I have gotten completely maniacal about certain details, and when I try to remember what they did in weddings I've been to recently (unfortunately pre-engagement) I can't remember much.  Very frustrating!  I'm glad you got to go and get a better idea of what will and will not work.
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  • Julie, her brothers walked her down the aisle. She is extremely close to them.

    Spring, that is a good idea to let guests take the cake or other goodies home. Just hate to see it all go to waste.

    Glad you guys liked the re-cap. I don't have any other weddings scheduled before mine, so I paid close attention in ths one, lol.
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  • Her brothers? That's so sweet .... :)
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  • Thank you for the recap, I love the idea of a chocolate fountain, I wonder if our venue would do one. I mean I'm sure they could but I wonder how much it'd cost. And I'm going to talk to FI to see if he wants to add to the cocktail hour, we'd have to take away from reception, but it sounds like a longer cocktail hour is a way to go!
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  • Wow thanks for the tips!

    I think I might look into the greeting everyone during cocktail hour.  Thats really worth considering
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  • Thanks for the recap. I like the greeting during cocktail hour idea. Definitely something to think about.
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  • great useful recap...needed it....i am goin to have a sweets tables with fruit and coffee also but beleve you me....they will eat the cake but im always one to save some for later.....and as of right now...our cocktail hour is 30 mins for my four hour reception......hell....a few weeks ago i didnt know cocktail hours were a reception staple or even existed for that matter until i began watching "four weddings" lol
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