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What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss?

achiduckachiduck member
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I've personally always hated getting up for the bouquet toss at weddings and most of my family and friends are married or really not into the toss and wouldn't get up for it anyway.

FI's BM is engaged and we really like his FI and are so happy for them. I was thinking of presenting my bouquet to her as the next bride-to-be (as of today there are no other engaged women on my guest list) and saying something about how FI and I wish them all the happieness in the world. She's not a shy person so I don't think saying a brief congrats and best wishes would make her uncomfortable.

Good idea, bad idea, thoughts?
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    I think this would be nice.  Or, just skip it altogether.
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  • Matty143Matty143
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    We skipped the bouquet toss, for  similar reasons.
    I would just keep your bouquet.

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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    I'd just skip the bouquet toss as well as presenting your bouquet to someone else.  It seems unusual.

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  • whitsywhitsy
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    I think it's nice but would look kind of odd.
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-are-your-thoughts-on-this-altrenative-to-a-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c8a4fcc-8090-4008-a8db-5ff3a095bceaPost:542b60b1-624b-4a3b-bcae-c5ae7bbf3dd1">Re: What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it is a nice thought. But, you will have to get the DJ to stop the music, interupt everyone and get her front and center to make your rpesentation. Do you think it is worth it? I would just give it to her privately.
    Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

    I don't think I'd want to stop the party to do this, so maybe giving it to her privately would be a better idea. I'm not sure I'd want to keep my bouquet, I don't know what I would do with it. I'm not the type of person to have it dried and put in a display box. I'll have pictures.
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  • Katelyn89Katelyn89
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    I would say give it to her privately or another idea I like is where you get all the couples up and dancing and in the end the couple standing has been married the longest and you give your bouquet to them.
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  • polichikpolichik member
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    I think it's a nice thought, but I'd also do it privately or skip it altogether. We didn't do a bouquet toss and just left it at that. My mom saved my bouquet and put it in this awesome shadow box with an invitation, program, bout, and a few other DIY projects.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-are-your-thoughts-on-this-altrenative-to-a-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c8a4fcc-8090-4008-a8db-5ff3a095bceaPost:833c0773-996f-41a8-b557-4c0229619356">Re: What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss? : I don't think I'd want to stop the party to do this, so maybe giving it to her privately would be a better idea. I'm not sure I'd want to keep my bouquet, I don't know what I would do with it. I'm not the type of person to have it dried and put in a display box. I'll have pictures.
    Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]
    I'm in the "give it to her privately" boat. You don't even have to take her out of the room or anything, just off to the side or what ever.
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  • auriannaaurianna member
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    The other alternative thing I've seen is the "how long have you been married dance"

    Aka get all married couples up on the dance floor and dance, and then after a few seconds/minutes he tells those married under 1 year to sit down... then those under 5... those under 10... etc, and then you give the bouquet to the last couple standing.
    I've seen it done at least... but obviously not for those who don't like a lot of "special dances" or perhaps if you're aware of any recent widow/widowers in the group...

    Your idea does sound very nice though.
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  • blgroutblgrout
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    We did the anniversary dance in lieu of having a bouquet toss, and it worked out wonderfully in that it got everyone out on the dance floor and was a really convenient way of getting the party started.  I like the concept of giving BM's fiance the bouquet, but if you do, I'm in the boat of giving it to her privately, unless you think she would like that kind of attention.
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  • chelseamb11chelseamb11 member
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    Agreed, give it to her privately.  It could potentially hurt the feelings of other guests who are engaged/close to engaged that you singled them out (even if it is the BM)
     
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  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    I guess I'm just a spoiled hoar. I'm spending far too much on this damn bouquet and I'm sure as shitt keeping it.
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-are-your-thoughts-on-this-altrenative-to-a-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c8a4fcc-8090-4008-a8db-5ff3a095bceaPost:b8f00fd2-b176-4fcf-94b6-86f8f73c322a">Re: What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I guess I'm just a spoiled hoar. I'm spending far too much on this damn bouquet and I'm sure as shitt keeping it.
    Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

    ahahah.. that's awesome.
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  • Cortney1982Cortney1982 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-are-your-thoughts-on-this-altrenative-to-a-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c8a4fcc-8090-4008-a8db-5ff3a095bceaPost:b8f00fd2-b176-4fcf-94b6-86f8f73c322a">Re: What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I guess I'm just a spoiled hoar. I'm spending far too much on this damn bouquet and I'm sure as shitt keeping it.
    Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

    Haha, LOL.  Me too!  If anybody wants flowers they can take the centerpieces home!
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  • chelseamb11chelseamb11 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-are-your-thoughts-on-this-altrenative-to-a-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c8a4fcc-8090-4008-a8db-5ff3a095bceaPost:b8f00fd2-b176-4fcf-94b6-86f8f73c322a">Re: What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I guess I'm just a spoiled hoar. I'm spending far too much on this damn bouquet and I'm sure as shitt keeping it.
    Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

    Right? Not even the spending factor, but the sentimental for me.  I actually made a separate, smaller, throwing bouquet because of it.
     
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  • joe&cassiejoe&cassie
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-are-your-thoughts-on-this-altrenative-to-a-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7c8a4fcc-8090-4008-a8db-5ff3a095bceaPost:62af0fb9-23a2-47c7-9a7d-b74a06acece6">Re: What are your thoughts on this altrenative to a bouquet toss?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would say give it to her privately or another idea I like is where you get all the couples up and dancing and in the end the couple standing has been married the longest and you give your bouquet to them.
    Posted by Katelyn89[/QUOTE]

    This!
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  • Leenie10Leenie10 member
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    I'm thinking about skipping it also but if I don't, I'm with the others who want to keep their bouquets and so would use a toss bouquet. In your case I would say skip it.
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  • orianita3orianita3 member
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    Let me chime in with a funny story....

    I didn't want to do a bouquet toss and so everyone knew this. I didn't feel like doing it because I always hated it when I was on the other side + everyone in there was already married....but...
    when the party started winding down, all my cousins/friends started joking and saying throw it throw it, so I went upstairs, and when I looked from the balcony, EVERYONE that was left (including guys), were trying to catch the damn thing. It was hilarious, and made for a really funny part of the video.

    That said, my florist made a bouquet especially for throwing (she said "In case you change your mind"). I thought that was nice of her and very smart, since throwing my actual bouquet could have killed someone, lol....!
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  • HockeyFan4HockeyFan4 member
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    I made a toss bouquet....and while in the heat of the moment, mid swing to toss, i turned around and walked over to my cousin's FI....they were getting married 6 months after us.

    When she got married, she had my toss bouquet and told her guests how I handed it to her, and now she was passing it on to her friend who was getting married shortly.

    I want to see how far my toss bouquet goes hahahaha
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