How does anyone else deal with former inlaws that still try to include you in family dinners and activities and they invite the new FI to come along! I know they mean well but it makes my FI very uncomfortable and he'd never go. I don't want to be rude but I am afraid that by being honest, I'll hurt feelings - particularly my FMIL. I understand my FI's point of view and I would feel a little akward as well. This latest invitation was to dinner tonight with my ex's parents and his brother and brother's family! I don't understand why she wouldn't think that maybe that might be a bit strange feeling. *shrug* Do any of you still keep relatively close ties with your ex family? How does/did your FI/DH deal with it at first and how long did it take for them to be comfortable with it, if ever?