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Help please!!!!

We are getting married in Maui @ Gannon's in May.  It was originally only supposed to be us and our parents and things kind of got out of hand, not by my doing but by my mothers, and I know have 20 guests plus the two of us.  I told everyone that we weren't going to do a reception or anything like that over there because we were putting that money towards an at home reception.  We're paying for it and recently had a little one so everything is on a shoe string budget.  We're getting married at 5 on a Friday and had planned on taking everyone on a sunset cruise that following Sunday.  My uncle lives on the island and is throwing us a back yard barbeque with a live band, food, and drinks on Saturday. 
Here's the thing, I feel bad not feeding everyone the day of the ceremony.  The one thing I splurged on was the photography, that is one of the most important things for me, and we were supposed to go off after the ceremony and take pictures just the two of us for the next few hours.  I don't want to skip on that and spend money that we really don't have on a dinner reception.  Would it be tacky to take everyone to breakfast that morning instead? 
Originally it was only going to be our parents and now I have cousins, nephews, aunts, and uncles coming as well.  And now I feel like what I had planned on doing isn't enough.  Any advice, suggestions, or anything is very much appreciated.  Thank you! 

Re: Help please!!!!

  • maui2011maui2011 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Personally i would proceed with the sunset cruise but as a non-hosted event and use that money to pay for dinner for your guests on your wedding day. You do not need to do typical reception stuff...but i think your guests are entitled to at least dinner...they did travel all the way to maui for your wedding. You can either host the dinner at Gannons or have your guests meet you at a different resto...Mala's...Ferraro's at the four seasons...5 Palms...Capische at the Hotel Wailea...to name a few. HTH! J. :-)

  • edited December 2011
    The prevailing opinion on the board here is that you really should treat your guests to a meal, ideally on the day of the reception, in appreciation for their time and travel to be there to support you.  What isn't clear from your post is if you were still planning to take all 20 people on the sunset cruise.  If so, can you cancel that and put the money toward a casual dinner reception?  Doesn't need to be at Gannon's, especially if you are going to have a 1-2 hour delay for photos.

    I know it's not 'what you planned', but unfortunately, you are the hosts, and as long as the guests are coming & welcome by you (versus showing up unwanted), you should adjust accordingly to ensure you're still being a good host.

    Also, your ceremony is at 5pm, over by about 5:30.  If you start photos immediately on location, you'll have 90 minutes until sunset, and 2 hours until darkness, so not a ton of room for a few hours of photos, just FYI.



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  • edited December 2011
    Is it too late to change your wedding to afternoon on saturday and have your uncle's bbq be your reception?
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