How to word the invitations when groom's parents have not contributed to cost

Re: How to word the invitations when groom's parents have not contributed to cost

• LeiselEB member

  

  May 2012

  If they aren't hosting and you do want to include them on the invitation, the only way to do it would be to use "son of...". If you don't care to have them on the invitation, then including them in the program in plenty. 

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• Aks3131 member

  

  May 2012

  How does your FI feel about this? If he wants his parents on the invitation then include them but if he does not care then do not include them on the invite. I did not include my in-laws on the invite for the same reason but it didn't bother my husband either way.

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• LDubHawksFan member

  

  May 2012

  I have the opposite problem where his parents have contributed, and originally we had "son of...." to include them, but other Knotties have informed me that they need to be at the top of the invite.  I thought just having them on the invite implied that they were hosting also.  Technically my grandma has helped a little too, so should I have 4 lines of hosts??
  
  I think you should just ask his parents.  They may not bat an eye that they aren't on the invite since it was more common in past generations for the bride's parents to pay and host the wedding.
  

  
  

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• aragx6 member

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_how-to-word-the-invitations-when-grooms-parents-have-not-contributed-to-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:a54aca8a-ec34-44a3-9873-86542c323f62Post:0df68169-f3d0-462f-9f19-07b8e9dc880c">Re: How to word the invitations when groom's parents have not contributed to cost</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have the opposite problem where his parents have contributed, and originally we had "son of...." to include them, but other Knotties have informed me that they need to be at the top of the invite.  I thought just having them on the invite implied that they were hosting also.  Technically my grandma has helped a little too, <strong>so should I have 4 lines of hosts??</strong> I think you should just ask his parents.  They may not bat an eye that they aren't on the invite since it was more common in past generations for the bride's parents to pay and host the wedding.
  Posted by lwoehlk[/QUOTE]
  
  I would highly suggest going with "Together with their families"

  

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• cwaggoner07 member

  

  May 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_how-to-word-the-invitations-when-grooms-parents-have-not-contributed-to-cost?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:a54aca8a-ec34-44a3-9873-86542c323f62Post:8b680244-6115-4228-b104-c77578589059">Re: How to word the invitations when groom's parents have not contributed to cost</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How to word the invitations when groom's parents have not contributed to cost : I would highly suggest going with "Together with their families"
  Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]
  
  I agree with this. We had small contributions from multiple family members on both sides, so we just left all of that wording out. Our invites and wedding are VERY casual, though.

  It was a fairytale.

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• alhoffman10 member

  

  May 2012

  I wouldn't leave them off... it was always very traditional for bride's parents to pay for everything, so maybe they didn't realize that you wanted them to contribute.. Their feelings may be hurt or they may be embarrassed if they are left off.. You and your fiance know who helped pay for it.. but unless you have a grudge (please don't hold a grudge on your wedding day) why does anyone else need to know? Maybe it's just me..

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• KimbyK member

  

  May 2012

  I was in the same position, we didn't mention his parents in the invites. Everyone was fine with it and never said a thing.

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• natashainlove111

  

  May 2012

  Totally agree! Don't single anyone out, especially since int's a sensitive situation. Don't want to start your life together by offending his parents do you?

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