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Groom at Bridal Shower?

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Is it customary for the groom to make an appearance at the bridal shower.  And if so how long should he stick around and at what part during the shower should he come?
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  • ehathewaehathewa
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    edited December 2011
    I am hoping my Fiance will come at the end of the shower so he can meet some of the family friends.  I wouldn't expect him to be there more than 15-30 minutes. 
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  • SuMmErKuTiESuMmErKuTiE member
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    edited December 2011
    My DH dropped me off and said hello to everyone and then went to lunch with my dad, his dad, and my grandfather. They came back when the shower was over and he thanked everyone for coming and then helped load up the car.
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  • loop0406loop0406 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have seen the groom pop in at the end to open gifts

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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have seen them come by at the very end to see the remaining guests, have some food, give thanks, and help transport gifts.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    My son was at my DIL's whole shower.  Her grandpa had Alzheimer's and our son agreed to sit with him at a table set away from the party so that DIL's grandma and mom could enjoy the shower.

    That way they didn't have to worry about him, and my son could follow him and keep him safe and in the building when he started to wander.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited December 2011
    Usually they come in towards the end to give a quick hello to everyone and help load up the car.
    I don't like them being there just in time to open the gifts. It's too... "ohai, i'm not here to have fun with you guys, i'm just here for the prezzies!" Do you know what I mean? If he is going to be there for the gifts, he should be there to socialize the whole time, too.
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    edited December 2011
    You need to check with your family/friends who live in the area where the shower will take place.

    The previous posters indicate that this is common in their areas.

    In my area, I have never ever seen a groom at a shower.  The showers are considered totally female time.  And it would be considered weird if somebody's FI shows up awkwardly at the end - like the bride expected to get a huge haul of gifts (even though the shower is, in part, for gift-giving - it's pretentious to develop an entire plan with a vehicle large enough to loading and a staff of loaders to be able to carry away the huge pile of gifts you've scored at the shower).
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  • JenO24JenO24 member
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    edited December 2011
    There's coed showers.  I just had one this past Sunday w/ my family, but my FI coudln't get off work so he wasn't able to attend.  Our friends and his family will have another one for us in August, which he'll attend.  I dont think the "hens only" form of bridal showers is as common as they used to be, at least where we live.
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  • Mia2700Mia2700 member
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    edited December 2011

    We had our shower this weekend and my Fiance stayed the entire time.  He sat right with me and opened gifts, afterall he registered for them too!  He mingled with my family and his.  It was a great time with him there and I'm more than pleased that he was there to share the day with me.  I'd say, if you want him there - have him!  The day is all about celebrating the two of you anyway, so why should just one of you get the party?  Just my opinion :)

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