Popping the Question- to the bridesmaids

aristau10 · May 2012

Looking for fun, cute, creative way to ask my prospective bridesmaids to stand as my bridesmaids in my wedding. Any ideas anyone? Thanks!
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GoodLuckBear14 · May 2012

You are not proposing to them so just ask. Not everything about your wedding planning has to be a production and you will have a lot less stress if you don't try to make it one.

Maggie0829 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]You are not proposing to them so just ask. Not everything about your wedding planning has to be a production and you will have a lot less stress if you don't try to make it one.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

I agree with this 100%. The thing your friends will remember is not the way you asked them, but the fact that you asked them to be a BM. That is what is most important, not the crazy production you put behind it.

Maggie0829 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_popping-the-question-to-the-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:7b4f9ead-5aa7-4a75-a8c9-93d491cedb34Post:499eed11-5330-4dac-98c7-1b1978c54a21">Re: Popping the Question- to the bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]As someone who has been asked to be a BM <strong>11 times now</strong> (I said yes 9 times and made it down the aisle 7 of them), I agree 100% with GoodLuckBear and Maggie. I've been asked with every cutesy gimmick known to man, and the most memorable ones are still the ones where I was just asked, either through heartfelt conversation over coffee or squeals of utter delight over the telephone.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Holy crap! I have only been in 3 weddings (mine included) and if I never had to be BM again it would be too soon!

lag05 · May 2012

While it doesn't have to be a cute, special thing, you want it to be, and that's fine (even if they don't remember how you ask them, if you want to put a little effort into it, there is nothing wrong with that).

I ordered cards for all of my bridesmaids from hallmark.com, personalized them online with a few pictures of us, and wrote a heartfelt note inside. Simple, but nice.

bfr65333 · May 2012

I just had a heartfelt conversation with each of my girls and asked them if they would be my bridesmaids. They were all happy to accept.

I really like what lag05 did too though

sparent2010 · May 2012

I went to them and said hey you want ot be a BM? Ok sweet thanks!

Summer2011Bride · May 2012

Whatever you decide to do, please don't ask them in front of each other. 1. I think it makes it a little less special,, and 2. it puts pressure on all the girls to say yes, when perhaps one or more can't because of work schedules, financial concerns, etc.

saacjw · May 2012

I had two "So... what color are the bridesmaids dresses" from my sister and my FI's sister, who had known/assumed/ asked before were engaged if they'd be bridesmaids, and just regular conversations with the other two. I think it's weird to make a big production out of it, as in, why would I make a bigger production out of asking my bridesmaids than my fiance made out of propsing to me?

aerinpegadrak · May 2012

I don't remember how I asked. I don't remember if I asked. Not even joking. I remember the conversation with my brother about switching him to my side (told him it was to balance out the groomswoman, actually so he and DH didn't kill each other), but other than that, I think it was just kind of assumed. I'm not a huge gesture person, so if I'd come out with a card and a bottle of wine and fireworks or whatever, they'd have looked at me like I was a body snatcher.

ljsquintz · May 2012

I ordered personalized wine glasses with their names and 'Bridesmaid' on them from Etsy. I also printed (free) "Will you be my Bridesmaid?" cards from weddingchicks.com.

stephie25 · May 2012

Ugh, I don't like this trend of making it a big production. Because I don't have enough to pay for/plan at this point? I had a private discussion with each girl over coffee/dinner and told them how much it would mean to have them in my wedding party. They will get thier gifts and notes to each of them at the rehersal dinner.

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