If this is your 2nd, how soon...

versed · September 2010

If this is your 2nd wedding, how soon after starting to date did you get engaged?

I'm just curious if your engagement was shorter this time around since you knew what you didn't want ... or if you waited to make sure this one was just right?

Just curious! TIA

embracejoy · September 2010

We started dating December 26, 2008, got engaged on December 24, 2009, and we're getting married October 20.. just 5 weeks away! So, from first date to married is less than 22 months.

My first time around, we dated for a little over a year before getting engaged, then we were engaged for 3 YEARS before the wedding.

Erin McCormack · September 2010

Our first date was Sept 17, 2008 and we got engaged 2/14/2010. The wedding is in 1 month and 3 day's. I CANNOT WAIT!!!!!! One day in Nov on my way to work I thought I'm going to marry him, when I got home I wrote it down on a piece of paper, date it and put it in my safe. About 2 months after we were engaged and we were talking about when did we realize we were the right one, I took out the piece of paper and gave it too him. When it's right, you know it. Just like everyone say's. He's home to me, I finally have a partner, a best friend and he's what I was really looking for from the beginning. We have so much in common, same core beliefs, hopes and dreams. He's my soulmate...

With the first one, met in July, engaged in Sept and Married in April. I was never asked, I was told we were getting married. I was living out of state at the time with no family. The kicker is, none of my family was too thrilled with him, and nobody said anything. I was 21 young and stupid and too afraid to say I want out and I don't love him. Of course the abuse didn't start right away, mainly control and jealousy. A year into it his true colors came out. By that time, I had had my son and we know how it goes from there! Sept 3, 2006, his ass was hauled out by the police after assaulting my son and that was the beginning of the end. 24 abusive years later. I got my life back......

Not my first marriage, but, my first love. I didn't plan my first one, this one I'm planning everything. I feel like the twenty year old bride only with a lot of experience and wisdom behind me. I think people have it wrong. They gush over the first time bride, when in reality for those of us who have triumphed over adversity this is a real celebration........and I think we all feel that way...

Erin

LindaN21 · September 2010

We met on 1/25/08, dated all year, moved in together 10/28/08. We love being together, he makes me feel beautiful even when I don't!!! In 2009 we talked about getting married in a year but never officially planned anything. I got laid off from my job 12/23/09. Then he got laid off a month later in 1/10. We went through "should we still get married even though we're laid off?" Against all odds we decided to marry this year anyway and are getting married next month 10/2010.

I think our relationship has already gone through the "worse" portion of our vows. We are already committed to each other and are only making it official!

Sloane99 · September 2010

Started dating in July 2007, married in July 2010 and we were engaged for just under 6 months.

Our engagement was relatively short because neither one of us wanted a long one. We dated longer than I would have liked, and longer than he would have liked I think at the end of the day but I'm glad we were together for over 2 years before getting engaged, it worked for us given other things that we were going through.

rapunnzzll · September 2010

My first, we met, got engaged and married in less than 2 years. This time around I was unsure of myself in the beginning. Steve and I have been together for over 9 years and engaged coming up on 3 years this xmas. We weren't in any rush to get married because of my school and a few other things and we were both okay with it. In July of 2009 I decided that we should really set a date and talking to him over dinner about it we decided on July 2011. I will have a good chunk of school completed before our marraige changes my financial aid. We are having such a wonderful time planning. He has gone to meetings with the florist, photographer and even understood why some things are important to me.

Erin, you are so right. I've been trying to tell people how this one has a deeper meaning and you nailed it! Because we have triumphed over adversity! One of the guys I work with got married last summer and it was a second for both. They went to the courthouse and her family felt like they should have had a big celebration. After explaining how I felt about it, he said he had never thought of it that way.

tangledtempest · September 2010

We met in June 2009, began actually dating in July, he moved in in September 2009and proposed 2 weeks ago in Sept 2010 obviously. We began talking about getting married from day 1 though.

He had some debts to pay off before feeling comfortable buying a ring and my divorce wasn't final until June of this year. If I didn't have my heart set on a spring wedding, we'd get married tomorrow. We've been sure from the get-go!

2dBride · September 2010

We had lived together nearly eight years when we got engaged. However, we're kind of a special case. As a same-sex couple, the first time we were legally able to get married anywhere was only a few days before I proposed.

Then again, I couldn't really tell myself that my first marriage failed due to not having known him long enough, since I'd known him for seven years before we got married.

Marrin713 · September 2010

We've been dating for 7 years and living together for 3 years. Only officially engaged tho since February 2010 and we just married in July. But we've been talking marriage for at least 2 years.

First one was whirlwind. First date in March 1979, engaged in June 1979 and married in December 1979. One might say I barely knew the man and one might be right. However, I did know him before we started dating. He was a brother of one of my best friends. We didn't really hang out until he came back from living in a commune in Washington state. So after he got rid of the commune look, we went on a date. But did I really KNOW him, no.

MikesAngie · September 2010

We reunited in 2009, on our one year anniversary we got engaged and we'll be married on our second anniversary in 2011! We have been livng together just over a year. I have known my FI since we were 15. This is the longest engagement I have ever had and it's been wonderful.

My "first marriage", he proposed in March married in June and that lasted 9.5 yrs, until he went nuts asking for a divorce 19 times in 3 months. He was 17.5 years older than me, very insecure and controlling. We were officially divorced juat after 10 years of marriage.

Lisa50 · September 2010

My engagement has been much longer this time (19 months vs. 3 months). I dated my FI much, much longer (3.5 yrs vs. 11 months), prior to engagement, than I dated my husband before we got married.

poohbearlover1984 · September 2010

We have known each other for about nine years. We started dateing March 21 of this year. We got engaged June 15th and we are getting married July 24 of next year. We are so excitied.

Thumper1148 · September 2010

It has been a much longer dating period this time. We were dating 4 years before we became engaged. It will be almost a two year engagement as well. There is no rush when you have a lifetime to be together.

My first one we were engaged 2 years after starting to date.

topcatiom · September 2010

been together 9 years when we got engaged, will be just over 10 by the time of the wedding, my first was after 6 months so one extreme to the other!

LindaN21 · September 2010

topcatiom

Thats awesome that your son is walking you down the aisle!! Congrats!!!
You look really happy!!!

topcatiom · September 2010

thanks, he is such a doll!

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