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Bridesmaid Luncheon?

Hi ladies,

I'm the first of my friends to get married & so I haven't been in any weddings.  I was wondering what most people do about a bridesmaid luncheon?  I like the idea of doing something nice to thank the girls for all their help.  However, I've never really heard of a luncheon and so I'm wondering if it's still a common thing to do?  As a substitue, would me paying for everyone to get their nails done the day before the wedding in addition to a gift to be presented at the rehearsal dinner be appropriate?

Re: Bridesmaid Luncheon?

  • I would do the nails instead of the luncheon, but that may just be a personal preference, I've never participated in a bridesmaid luncheon before. If the nails are in addition to the gift I think it would be nice.

    Just be prepared for the possibility that everyone's schedules may not align and not everyone may not be able to make it.
  • I think it just depends. I had never heard of one before coming here. 

    It would be lovely of you to treat your girls to something nice like that, but also know that it is not required of you to do anything beyond the thank you gift unless you want to and can afford it. So if not, don't sweat trying to have a gathering. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    edited December 2012
    Bridesmaids' luncheon is traditionally the week of the wedding, usually RD day. Bride thanks the girls and gives them their presents. It can be co-hosted by the bride or MOB or any friend or relative. It is usually very small. I hosted one for a friend's daughter. It was just the girls, MOB, and I, where MOB was there to keep me, the hostess, company. We sort of stayed out of their way. It can be at a restaurant or the hostess's home. Your substitute works fine, too.
  • Thanks everyone!  I was planning on getting food for the morning of for everyone since it will be a long day for us all.  I think I will stick to my original plan of paying for everyone's nails, a thank-you gift at the rehearsal dinner, & breakfast the day of when we get ready.  I have a lot of OOT bmaids and I didn't want to do ANOTHER event on top of all the other wedding related activities.  I also was afriad that if I literally did a lunch the day of the rehearsal dinner it would mean a full day off of work for everyone (as opposed to a 1/2 day) and more food on top of the dinner my FI parents are hosting.  At the same time, I wasn't sure what was expected, so thanks for the quick replys!
  • My daughter did what you are planning. She treated all her bms to a manicure (their choice) the day of the RD. They were all planning to get their nails done for the wedding, anyway, so everyone appreciated it. The salon closed for a few hours to take care of the wedding party, so they were allowed to bring in wine and snacks.
                       
  • Thanks for the feedback!  I was planning on doing a group activity for nails so it would be me, my BMs, my mom, and my FMIL.
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