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htracy18 · July 2012

Okay here's my backstory. I have one niece who will be 12 and a bridemaid at our wedding. FI has 4 nieces from one sister the ages will be 8, 6, and 4 year old twins. No nephews of course. We are set on having our chocolate lab as our flower dog and then we we're going to have the 6 year old be a flower girl because she's the FI godchild. As for for the other girls we were going to find other jobs for them so they feel included.
Well of course FI went and visited his nieces and the oldest, almost in tears, told him she wanted to be in the wedding. And I'm pretty sure she's never been told no in her life. As far as the youngest twins they are important because they are the reason FI and I got together, and I'm the closest with them. Now FI and FMIL suggest having them all. I think that's crazy and finically expensive.
Call me crazy but I don't want to guest to be bored with the whole girls in dresses by the time I walk down. And at this point I feel like we'd just have them in just to have them in. I want the godchild to feel special not just because she's a niece if that makes sense.
Open for suggestions. Am I just bring too picky?

FutureMrsPrice2013 · July 2012

Yea I do see your point that is alot of girls. This may sound mean but just stick with your original plan. Kids have to know that sometimes the answer is 'no'.

katiereith · July 2012

What jobs did you have in mind for the other girls? I definately agree that you stick to your guns and don't have all of them. With supervision, the two four year olds could pass out programs at the start and bubbles or flower petals or whatever it is you are going to have people throw as you leave the church. The 8 year old can be the guest book attendant and monitor the card box as people leave the church. They are still involved this way, but not directly and they will still have jobs. While you do have to try and please his family, it is also your and his wedding, not the nieces.

cnf2013 · July 2012

That's way too many kids. All children need to learn that they don't always get what they want. Just because her parents won't tell her no doesn't mean you can't. Stick with your original plan. If you really want the other to help out, have them pass out favors or something.

We have lots of kids that we could consider for flower girls or ring bearers. But we settled on two of FI's cousins little girls for flower girls and I'm pretty sure FI intends to have our dog be ring bearer. We'll see. I don't want to make anyone have to go back and drop him off at our house between the ceremony and the reception.

rmp4996 · July 2012

I agree, stick with your plan. Can the 8 year old do a reading? Something simple. Or have them pass our programs. The 8 year old could maybe even help people find seats. But that is way too many girls, and I think it's a nice idea to have the goddaughter get an honor.

pedulaney · July 2012

I have the SAME problem! I think we found a solution though. I picked one niece, 5 and two nephews, 3 and 5 to be ring bearers and flower girls. The other nieces, ages 13,12,and 11 will be lining the end of the aisle before I walk down and help me straighten my dress, etc. the older nephews, ages 13, 9, and 9 will help me step out of the carriage onto the aisle. U could just have your nieces help u straighten out. They could wear pretty dresses and feel special! Hope this helps!!

htracy18 · July 2012

Thank Ladies. FI and I talked and we decided were going to stick with our guns. FMIL is not super happy but she will get over it. Thanks for helping with my back bone!

htracy18 · July 2012

Thank Ladies. FI and I talked and we decided were going to stick with our guns. FMIL is not super happy but she will get over it. Thanks for helping with my back bone!

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