I have a BM dilemma. My FH has 2 sisters and I was planning on asking them both to be in the WP. Back-story: He is much closer with one sister over the other and doesn’t want me to ask his other sister at all. She has previously caused many problems when there don’t need to be and has caused some rifts in the family, especially during events and holidays.
I don’t want to cause problems before even coming into the family by not asking her; however, I don’t want her to cause any problems during the wedding, though it seems inevitable. She has recently been upsetting everyone, including my FMIL, and my FH is becoming more persistent in the fact that I don’t ask her. My mother thinks that regardless, it would be rude of me to not ask her, but I feel like I’m getting conflicting opinions all around. My MOH is on the fence about what I should do because she understands both sides. Should I talk to my FMIL about this? I really just need an outsider’s opinion.
Please help