SO I am in the process of converting reformed and my fiance is orthodox. This is the first wedding in the family in 20 years so we are not really sure what we are doing. I bought the New Jewish Wedding book, but have lost it so I didn't get to finish it. What all do I need to add and in what order and how long does everything take?
5:30 Ceremony Start, (then what??) do we say vows and exchange rings. then kiddushin, then seven blessings (is the circling done at the same time they are read?), breaking the glass, then first kiss?
How long does that usually take?
6:30 is supposed to be drinks and appetizers
7:00 is dinner
Toasts during dinner
Should the first dance be at 7:30 or 7:45
then father/daughter mother/son
then hora? (What songs did or are you choosing for this?)
I'm sorry I am just super confused and new to all of this. I will hash out a lot of this with my Rabbi, but he won't agree to officiate the wedding until I pay my membership fees and I have not been able to do that yet.