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People Inviting Themselves... What to do???

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in Nevada-Las Vegas

Ok, I know everyone loves a reason to go to Vegas. But I cannot believe how many people have invited themselves to our wedding!! These uninvited people are looking for hotels, flights, etc...
The venue where we are getting married can accomodate more than enough guests, and honestly I dont mind them attending. But are having an insuite reception, which is more than enough room to accomodate our invited guests, but not the crashers.  The wedding  crashers are mainly my distant family, coworkers, and friends of friends. What do I do?

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Re: People Inviting Themselves... What to do???

  • Knottie1450123632Knottie1450123632 member
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    tell them no im sorry i cant do it.  if they get pushy then push back
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  • jkr41271jkr41271 member
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    I'm going through the same thing. The FI has a couple friends who all of a sudden invited their friends (that we don't know) to come. The FI hates to tell people no (except for me, lol) and says oh the more the better. So I had to take control and call all his friends and tell them anyone can come to Vegas, vacation, enjoy yourself but our wedding is limited to those that received a personal invitation. Sorry but maybe we can all meet up for drinks afterwards. Everyone was kind in words to my face, what they said behind my back I have no idea and really don't care. I didn't invite all my family and friends just for the reason we couldn't afford everyone, why would I pay for some stranger.
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  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
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    I wouldn't have any tolerance for that; if you are not invited, you are not invited, and I'd have no problem telling someone that.  You can phrase it in a variety of ways from rude to nice Smile  Typically you'd say something like we invited the number of people our (resources allowed / venue could accommadate / caterer could handle / seats were available / etc ) and unfortunately cannot accommadate any additional, so please ensure anyone you've told to come knows they are not invited to attend our ceremony and reception.

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  • PreDempseyPreDempsey member
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    Let these crashers know ASAP before they book anything so they can't guilt you into letting them come. 
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  • Knottie1450123632Knottie1450123632 member
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    if they are co workers i would simply state im sorry but ive sent out my invites and i cant afford for you just to invite yourself . inform your friends they cant invite others to attend your wedding its rude and the invite didnt say plus 1 .  distant family just let them know there is no space


    this would be a semi bridezilla moment for me
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  • marocha14marocha14 member
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    I had this same issue once people found out we were getting married in Vegas. I had to tell them that we already gave the wedding planner a head count and we couldn't change the number due to preparations that were made based on that number. You have to get tough with them, if not you'll end up with a ton of uninvited guests.
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  • fablovefablove member
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    Oh I had this problem with co-workers. I had one co-worker tell me she would be flying there! I knew then and there that I had to nip this in the bud and be straight with her that we are on a budget and are already over our max for guests which was just for close friends and family. She actually appreciated me telling her and said no worries and that she understands.
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  • Knottie1450123632Knottie1450123632 member
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    who in their right mind would just ASS U ME they are coming just cause they know someone getting married?  hell when my cousin got married my mom, my daughter nor i was invited and i didnt even know till a few weeks after
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Thanks for all your responses. I shouldn't feel bad since they didn't feel bad about inviting themselves.
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  • coopsbabycoopsbaby member
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    Yep, don't feel bad. I think it's pretty common with a Vegas wedding. We get people we barely know trying to invite themselves. Lucky for me, we have a small chapel so I just tell them that and that there's not any more room. If they get mad, well they're rude for trying to invite themselves to a wedding!
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  • nursing2unursing2u member
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    Funny... I would be concerned.. but I keep having the fear that I won't have the amount of people I think... like only 10-15 people will come...instead of the 30-40
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