Ok so I'm getting married in April and I'm currently living in TX so I've been planning from out of state. Its been really difficult to try to keep other people in involved like my FMIL, mom, and bridesmaids. All of them want to help but they each live in different states (except my mom and 2/5 bridesmids who live in MN). I think I'm doing a pretty good job keeping my mom informed and asking her about her opinions and the ocasionaly wedding related errand. The biggest problems I'm having is my FMIL. Shes a wonderful person, and we get along great but shes insanely busy. She wants to be involved in the planning and I'm trying to incorporate some details she suggested a long time ago but its nearly impossible to get a hold of her recently! It was like pulling teeth to get a guest list of people she wanted and I asked her for their addresses 3 weeks ago and haven't heard back at all. Not even a "ok I'll get it to you soon I'm swamped at work" or anything. I asked my fiance if he could help but hes like yea shes really busy and said he'd mention it a while ago. I've had the STDs for a while and would like to get them sent out. The few times I do talk to her she always says "let me know if you need help, I want to help!" She was remarried a few years ago so her wedding was still fresh in her mind. Sometimes when I talk about hiring people to do things for the wedding, for example making boutineres and corsages, FI says that she made all those herself and that she could do ours. I'm not totally opposed to this (maybe a little nervous though because I'm a control freak) but I need her to be able to communicate with me if thats going to happen. What do you ladies reccommend I do? I want her involved as much as she wants to be but I'm at a loss because she always so busy! I just don't want her to feel like I'm excluding her. My FI and her are really close so I know the wedding is a big deal to her too...