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Addressing invites minus a plus 1 option...

Nikki71Nikki71 member
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in September 2012 Weddings
Our invites are out and we're getting back RSVPS. Our plan was to allow anyone in a relationship of any kind to bring their BF/GF/spouse. Anyone not in a relationship we did not write "and guest" on their invite (for those in relationships, we included the guest's name on the invite). Still, we've recieved a few single people RSVPing for 2! Ugh. Where did we go wrong in our addressing? Or did we? I mean it's too late now to change anything, but I'm just curious how to politely say "do not bring a stranger to my wedding" haha
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Re: Addressing invites minus a plus 1 option...

  • ktina01ktina01
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    You addressed them correctly. Typically its whoevers name that is on the envelope that is receiving the invite,  if someone is in a relationship you have both names on the invite. I have run into this problem getting my RSVP's back and have politely contacted that guest to let them know that we simple do not have room for everyone to bring a guest.  If you dont feel comfortable doing it you can always ask your mom or your FMIL to do it depending on whos list the guest came from. Good luck!
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  • egm900egm900 member
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    You didn't do anything wrong.  I would call them and say unfortunately you do not have room for their guest and hope they will still be able to attend.  If anyone is in a relationship now, I would make an exception, but otherwise try to stick to the no guest rule for single people, otherwise some people who were not rude and didn't add the guest may feel hurt, etc.  I also don't like rewarding bad behavior...
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  • doublenndoublenn member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_addressing-invites-minus-a-plus-1-option?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:9ff6ec5b-36cf-460c-b8c3-e7da77bc4831Post:ac0f5973-ede2-427a-af69-a7931de8cddc">Addressing invites minus a plus 1 option...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Our invites are out and we're getting back RSVPS. Our plan was to allow anyone in a relationship of any kind to bring their BF/GF/spouse. Anyone not in a relationship we did not write "and guest" on their invite (for those in relationships, we included the guest's name on the invite). Still, we've recieved a few single people RSVPing for 2! Ugh. Where did we go wrong in our addressing? Or did we? I mean it's too late now to change anything, but I'm just curious how to politely say "do not bring a stranger to my wedding" haha
    Posted by Nikki71[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Like PP said, could it be that some of these are not single anymore?  If they're not single, I'd definitely let them bring the guest. If they are single, I'd let them know "I'm sorry, but we can't accomodate your guests."

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  • Nikki71Nikki71 member
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    Thanks for the input! There's only been 2 that added in their plus 1. I think one of them is now in a relationship (got back into a relationship with someone they had broken up with when invites were sent).

    Glad to know I didn't address them wrong. I'll let these 2 people keep their +1s and cross my fingers not everyone does that!!
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