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Bride and groom last in recessional?

katelin318katelin318 member
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Most wedding sites I've looked at say that the bride and groom leave first in the recessional, followed by flower girl/ring bearer, bridesmaids/groomsmen, brides parents, grooms parents, etc.  My fiance really wants us to go out last (followed only perhaps by our officiant).  Part of this has to do with our recessional song.  Our favorite part of it starts about half way through and he really wants us to go down the aisle to that part of the song.  I know the recessional order is not set in stone, but will people think it's totally weird if we have our parents and wedding party go out first, then us?  Also, we are having a Catholic ceremony (no mass though) and I'm not sure if the church has rules about it.  Thoughts?
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  • katelin318katelin318 member
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    The song itself is a church song - it's not our favorite song, we just have a favorite part of it :) - so I'm pretty sure it is allowed.  I will check of course, and I suppose I should just check with our priest to see if he has rules about the order of the recessional.  Barring that, I guess I'm just worried it will seem really weird to our guests!  But it's totally possible I'm overthinking it.  Before I started planning a wedding I don't think I even knew what the typical order for a recessional was!
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  • melb2013melb2013 member
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    I would think it was a little weird if you weren't the first one to leave.  Logistically, you are closest to the front of the isle, so it's easiest for you to leave first.

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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    I think it would look better if the bride and groom recess without an obstructed view.  Guests want to see you.  Is there any reason you can't start the song just prior (somewhere near the middle of the song) to your recessional?
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  • PeavyPeavy member
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    As PP said, can you begin the song at your favorite part?  I think it would be weird for the bride and groom to wait to leave until all the attendants and families recess.  The recessional is supposed to be a bright, happy song, with the bride and groom leading the celebration...not the ring bearer.
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  • egm900egm900 member
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    The only time I've seen the bride and groom go last, they were the ones to "dismiss" the guests from their pews.  Do you actually want to walk out to that part of the song, or do you just want to hear it?  That might be an option if you just want to hear that part.
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  • iloveu4everiloveu4ever member
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    Nothing wrong with that

     
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  • sweetbrat89sweetbrat89 member
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    I think its our wedding its our day do it your way
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    Honestly?   You will be basking in the glow of your ceremony and being a newly wedded couple.  You won't even hear the music.

    We carefully chose our recessional song (cheesy, but it was from the sountrack of the movie we went to on our first date, and is a favorite).  I don't remember hearing a note because all I could think about was how happy I was and how beautiful the ceremony was.    

    It's traditional for the bride and groom to recess first.  I think it would be weird to have them leave last (or in the middle?).  If you really care about the music, see if you can have the music start (or fade in) toward your favorite part.  But I bet you won't even hear the music or realize what part is playing.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    When my daughter got married, she picked a beautiful song not normally used for a recessional.  She and her groom were really happy and excited to exit to it.  But guess what....everyone in the church was clapping as they exited, and you really couldn't hear the song.  And this was an organist cranking up the song pretty loud too
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  • runpipparunrunpipparun member
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    The Catholic church will have rules that you have to follow. *yawn*
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