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Inviting people question...

KathleenCGarciaKathleenCGarcia
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okay so i'm getting married this august 20th. and my mom & gandma are planning my bridal shower.. so i have a question.
i made my guest list for the wedding.
is it rude to invite people to the bridal party, the wedding, and the dance part and jut not the dinner?
like im on a budget, so does that make a diference?
i need your thoughts please.
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    Hi there, yes, it's rude to invite people to pre-wedding parties that are not invited to the wedding.  Work off your guest list for shower invites.
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  • KathleenCGarciaKathleenCGarcia
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_inviting-people-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:652f1aa5-7766-488a-8f9e-8f95abe3242cPost:6af8566a-b4f0-4d2a-ab00-ed81eb559ddd">Re: Inviting people question...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi there, yes, it's rude to invite people to pre-wedding parties that are not invited to the wedding.  Work off your guest list for shower invites.
    Posted by deepcovejackie[/QUOTE]

    sorry i just re-worded it.
    wasnt thinking fully.
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    When you re-word a post, leave the original, and hit the "edit" button, and add the edited info at the end.  I wish I'd quoted your original post.

    At any rate, to address your re-worded post, now you're suggesting a tiered reception?  You can't ask some people to the dinner and not others.  Are you going to ask some people to come back later?  I'm really confused now, can you clarify?  I will quote you this time to avoid more confusion.
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_inviting-people-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:652f1aa5-7766-488a-8f9e-8f95abe3242cPost:72d4c5a5-4ffb-45a6-bd79-f325e3c37a65">Inviting people question...</a>:
    [QUOTE]okay so i'm getting married this august 20th. and my mom & gandma are planning my bridal shower.. so i have a question. i made my guest list for the wedding. is it rude to invite people to the bridal party, the wedding, and the dance part and jut not the dinner?<strong> like im on a budget, so does that make a diference</strong>? i need your thoughts please.
    Posted by KathleenCGarcia[/QUOTE]

    Nope, being on a budget still makes it rude.  Good luck though!
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    First, decide on how many people you can afford to invite to the ceremony, dinner and dance. All of the ceremony and dance guests must be invited to the dinner.

    Next, ask your mom and grandma how many guests they would like to invite to the shower. Choose those guests from the wedding guest list. MOB, MOG, sisters and wedding party should be included. Do not invite anyone to the shower unless they will also be invited to the wedding.


                       
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    No, you can't invite people to part of the reception.  That's very poor form.  So decide how many you can afford to invite to the whole shebang, and then use only those names for the prewedding parties.

    And FWIW, EVERY bride and groom are on a budget.  Being on "a budget" simply means that you have a set amount of money available for the wedding.  It could be a $2K budget, or a #30K budget, but both are "budgets".

    But a hearty good luck to you.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • blush64blush64 member
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    edited December 2011
    EDITED: I'm on a budget too, I just cut out some things I didn't absolutely need. IT's still rude. Cut down the list, take more time to save, cut out other things, do not deny dinner to guests.

    Basically the same as everyone else said.
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