honeymoon registary

dorolyn03 · August 2012

My fiance and I have lived together for quite a few years and really have everything we need. I saw this new trend of the honeymoon registaries and I'm not sure if this is approriate or is it becoming more acceptable? I don't want to offend anyone seeing how his family is mostly older.

Maggie0829 · August 2012

These are typically frowned upon on here because HM registries are just a sugar coated way of asking for money. And typically the websites who provide this service take a cut of the money your guests are spending on excursions, dinners, massages, etc. Also, when the guest pays for an excursion or dinner you only receive a cash payout and not the actual dinner or excursion that was purchased.

Just say no.

sarabellam · August 2012

Don't do a honeymoon registry. If you don't need anything, don't register, and don't accept any showers. But SURELY you can use some new towels, sheets, upgraded cookware...

Stackeye210 · August 2012

I think you have to know your crowd to do something fashion forward like a HM registry. I think they're rude and disgusting personally, I mean I don't want to pay for anyone's sexfest. But some people really like them. If you're not interested in gifts for the home then do a small registry, people will get the hint and more than likely give you cash.

Also, keep in mind that a lot of HM registries make money by charging per excursion. Say someone gives you a $50 gift via the HM registry, you'll probably get about $45 of that. I just don't like that about them.

lyndausvi · August 2012

I'm personally not a fan. I thought a bought a couple a helicopter ride for their honeymoon. What I found out was I just gave them cash. They never had any intentions of doing any of the activities they "registered" for. I felt duped.

After some investigation I found that honeymoon registries are just asking for cash. As they just cut you a check minus a fee, of course. You don't even have to go on a honeymoon.

arendiva · August 2012

Ettiquete wise no they are not cool. But even aside from ettiquete they are a rip off. Why would you want your guests to waste money on fees? I would just do a normal registry. You may prefer money but your guests may prefer to give real gifts and they would much rather give you a gift that you want/need than a 5th toaster.

Cortney1982 · August 2012

I lived with my husband before we got married so here is what you do: Don't make a honeymoon registry. Make a small registry at a store you like. Surely there is something you don't have or would like to upgrade. Some people are not cash givers no matter the circumstance. Don't mention your registry. If your guests truely know you, they know you don't need anything and are more likely to give you cash if they get you anything at all.

hoffse · August 2012

Make a small registry. Do you entertain? You can always use new or seasonal serving dishes/fine china & crystal. Do you cook? The KA stand mixers are awesome, and the gadget section of WS is sort of a dream come true. Do you do none of those things? Well you still need sheets and towels, and those items wear out.

OP, don't do the HM registries. An older crowd won't necessarily know that they're just cash grabs, but they're going to still come off as a) you asking people to help pay for your vacation and 2) icky reminders of your upcoming sexfest. I don't think great aunt sally is going to want to "buy" you a couple's massage or other aphrodisiacs... and anybody who reads the fine print will realize that the whole process is deceptive, and out of your entire guestlist, I guarantee you there will be a few who read the fine print.

HeidiWard04 · August 2012

Ditto all of the above posts. HM registries are tacky and a sugar coated way of asking for cash. There's also old school etiquette that STRONGLY frowns upon your guests financing your honeymoon.

There is ALWAYS something you can upgrade, or you might really want, but not buy yourself. Dishes? Cookware? New kitchen knives?

If a registry for "stuff" doesn't feel good to you, then don't register. You may still get cash gifts, but folks will have done it because they want to.

violet355 · August 2012

boo to the honeymoon registry!

my fiance and i have been living together for two years, so there isn't really much we need either. but i did struggle to register for some stuff that we'd like but didn't have, and looked at it as a way to upgrade some of the things we already had. like a new coffee table, and some nicer lamps, and a memory foam mattress topper.

you'll find stuff. think of it as a way to redecorate? new curtains and comforters!

chapel2012 · August 2012

I have never understood why people would even consider a honeymoon registery. I mean lets face it, the majority of people, if they are going to bring a gift to the wedding, are going to bring you checks or cash in nice little cards that you can easily use for your honeymoon if you want to. Why pay some company to be the middleman?

FI and I lived together for close to 10 years before getting engaged. We made a small registry with the things that we truly needed to upgrade. We got a lot of the stuff we wanted for my shower, and there is still several things left for people to choose from if they want to bring a physical gift. If they would like to give money, then yay that money goes into our honeymoon fund. Don't need a honeymoon registery to tell them that cash is appreciated.

dorolyn03 · September 2012

Thanks everyone it really was never about the money. But your right. I was torn about the tastefullness of it all. And the overwhelming consensus was it was tacky. I think we will just do a nice small registry, Thanks again for all your input

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