Program help

king26 · March 2010

I am having difficulty with our programs. FI's mother passed away last year and I want to include her in the program somehow, but I'm not sure where. Some people have suggested to put it under Parents of the Groom and list her as the late Mrs. Groom...but I'm not sure how FI and I feel about that. Currently I have written Father of the Groom in that spot.
DO you think it would be ok to just write on the bottom of the last page that we are lighting the memorial candle in loving memory of FI's mother, then list her name? Is that an apporpriate place to put it?
If you have any other ideas they would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

Er&JerLem · March 2010

DHs father passed away a while back. We listed him as the Late Mr ___ under parents of the groom. This is what DH wanted.

We also had an in memory section where he was listed.

KimWard · March 2010

I'd do a special section like you described. We had a special "in memory of" section, but it was generic, since there were multiple family members on both sides who had passed away, and we didn't want to list all of their names and be too morbid. You could even list the "in memory" section right after the parents, family, etc., so her name would still be on the same page.

HTH some! We also had a moment of silence during the ceremony for those loved ones that have passed away, and for those who could not in attendance that day (since my grandparents and aunt/uncle/cousins couldn't come from AZ).

LaFemmeRousse · March 2010

No personal suggestions, but I think your and FI's idea sounds completely appropriate.

jlbaxter33 · March 2010

My father passed away when I was young, so I've been giving this some thought. I know there is an "Ask Carly" Q&A about honoring lost ones. One idea on there was to have the back of the program be dedicated to your lost one. I was thinking of doing a poem and have a dedication to my Dad on the back of the program. I think listing his mother as the "late Mrs. Groom" is acceptable (as long as your FI is ok with it) and appropriate since she is his parent whether or not she is here or not.

Definitely look at that Ask Carly because there were some other ideas.

duqcheer04 · March 2010

I don't have much to add, but I think your idea of an "in memory of" section on the last page is acceptable.

I also like Kim's idea of a moment of silence.

brivb10 · March 2010

Heather - is your ceremony catholic? We dedicated the mass in the appropriate intentions area for my recently deceased Aunt. Additionally, we listed her in the memorial section, but an Aunt is a little different than a parents, so I echo PPers on those sentiments.

king26 · March 2010

Thanks guys! I'm going to talk to FI tonight and figure out what he wants. I'll let him know your ideas as well! Thanks so much!

kgarv22 · March 2010

I had two lockets wrapped around the stems of my bouquet....inside the lockets were pictures of our grandparents (I actually used their wedding photos). In our program I added a paragraph mentioning the lockets and how they were with us in spirit today and everyday. If you are interested, I can send you the exact wording I used.

youarestellar · March 2010

That is what we are doing for my grandfather. He passed away a few years ago, but we still want him to be a part of our day. We are just writing at the bottom about the memory candle, that he was my grandfather, this birth and death year, and a small quotation that we had put on the candle (because most people won't actually get to read it). It's good to do it whatever way you guys are comfortable with. I'm sure it would make his family happy.

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