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BM Dress Hell

emenz47emenz47
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in May 2013 Weddings
Hi All!

I am needing to vent a bit about BM dresses. My sister is my only BM and my MOH. Originally when we picked the wedding colors she already had a dress in the right color from a previous wedding she was in. Awesome right? No! After she had her baby she realized her boobs wouldn't shrink enough after she finished breast feeding for it to fit. No problem. Have it taken out. Instead of having it take out an altered she decided on a new dress. Somehow after complaining about prices I agreed to split a new dress 50/50 with her. We go shopping and I find the most adorable dress in pool from David's bridal. The organza and the color was just perfect for an 11 am wedding in Vegas. She tells me if she has to pay for part of it she wants it to be black so she can wear it again.

Wait. WHAT?!?!? I already bought the shoes and the sash for her because she is broke and now she wants a black dress???? I hate confrontation so I caved...but then she wanted a cheaper dress. So she got a black chiffon dress online that wasn't nearly as cute.

Now FI's mom is complaining that you can't wear black to a spring wedding even if it is in Vegas. She offered to buy my MOH the organza dress I loved but MOH refused because she hardly knows her. This has come up several times and it is driving me bonkers. FI doesn't want black dresses but MOH won't accept the blue one. Idk what to do. Too many dresses involved.

Have I mentioned that since its a destination wedding she complained about cost so I am covering plane tickets for her and my mom is paying for her hotel room? All she has covered is 25 for a LBD. I'm getting highly frustrated with the situation but idk how to handle it without making someone angry or hurting feelings.
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  • beckyh77beckyh77 member
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    I feel really bad for you here. She's kindof steamrolling you about the dress when you're already helping pay for it she shouldn't complain!!
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  • cnh31cnh31
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    That's terrible! You are being so generous and she is not bending. I am all for being accommodating to your bridesmaids but as your best friends I would think they would want your wedding day to be perfect for you and try to accommodate you too! And when you are asked to be in a wedding you know that certain costs come with that. She could have politely said she couldn't be in it if she wasn't able to afford it! I am having some frustrating issues similar to this but not nearly as bad! Good luck and I hope your day ends up being everything YOU, and FI of course?, hope for!
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  • Sharpschruter22Sharpschruter22 member
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    Stand up for yourself. Let your FI mom buy the pool dress. It's YOUR wedding. YOU get to pick your bmaid dresses.
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    I totally get your frustration. It's not fair that your sister keeps changing her mind. I'd tell her to pick a dress and stick with it, also that whichever dress she picks she should pay for it. It's super nice of your FMIL to pay for her dress, but it's really not necessary plus it lets your sister off the hook for her behavior. My BM dresses will be black so I see no problem with black bm dresses in the springtime ;
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  • emenz47emenz47
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    Thanks ladies! I know I'm super lucky to have a FI and a FMIL who really want to make sure the day is exactly how I want it. I just need to tell my sister the pool dress is gonna happen and she will wear it. The pool just looks so pretty and springy with the guava sash and shoes! :
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  • emmyloveseddieemmyloveseddie
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    I'm sorry ;( and I agree you need to choose the dress.  I have 8 bridesmaids and when we went to look at the dresses everything was so much fun and everybody tried on the dresses with no whinning which I appreciated.  I still haven't decided on what dress to choose from lol 
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