Catching up

CaseynMike · February 2013

Hey Knotties its been a minute since I have posted here. But let me get to the point....my wedding has been canceled, postponed what ever you want to call it. We called it off a little over a month ago and it has taken me this long to deal with it. I have to thank Cha for coming to Baton Rouge to meet me for Sushi and talk time...I felt a million times better after talking to her..Bo, Tash, Mari and Miyah were there for me too...For my knottie sisters that have been here for a while with me know that his house has been a major issue in our planning to get married. And it still is...Quick recap: His house was built with chinese drywall became part of a lawsuit in 2010 (which cancelled our first initial planning) went through litigation all of 2011 then 2012 they began rebuilding his home. In 2012 we planned to just go ahead and plan the wedding and I got my ring in 2012. Well his house was supposed to be completed in Oct 2012 and that didnt happen then they told him November 2012...still no go. I had to go back into a lease on my apt for 7 months in December. His lawyer found out that he wasn't back in his home and informed the contractor that they breached the lawsuit. For everyday past Oct 24, 2012 that he is out of his home they owe him money. They said they would finish the house but they weren't paying him the extra settlement money. So his lawyer sued again. Now his house was completed Jan 28, 2013. I have contacted all vendors and informed them of the cancellation. I am upset behind the moving back of the marriage NOT the actual wedding reception. I have offered to him to do something smaller, change venues, all of that but he won't agree to it because he says that is not what he wants for me....(slight eye roll). I did ask him if he really did want to get married and he said yea...I guess God has something different in store for us...As of today we have no alternative date....

I miss you all it was just really hard to come here and know I am no longer planning a wedding. But I am still excited and happy for you all.

Much Love,

Case

MrsBad13 · February 2013

Hey sissy...I was just thinking about you.. was gone for awhile too and was noticing you hadnt been around. I was like dang I wish I knew her number or FB so I could contact you. Im so sorry that this house thing has taken a toll on the wedding plans. I just knew that it was over. Its crazy how life throws you curve balls and it makes you want to give up. Does bae not even want to do a jop and a small dinner party and then the big celebration later ? Tell him yall can still get and be married without the wedding celebration right now because its not about that. When me and my babe went on break I said ill marry you today right in our living room...at the end of the day its about the marriage and not the party..ya know ?! Ill be praying for you and him and hope the plans can go back into effective sooner than later. I have faith things will work out..you'll see. Im here too..I cant drive to NO but im here lol

footballwife77 · February 2013

Hey mrs bad! i see you! I seen your post yesterday but got sidetracked with work- glad to see you back in the swing of things! I was about to put out a buddy check on you!

Case- When life throws you lemons- you call your tequilla crew/ national council? I'm way too far away however, I'll drunk dial you up at 11:30'ish sat night -How's that work for you

Your time is not now, however, it will come soon enough and i'll be on standby at the airport. Stay strong, have faith, and stay POSITIVE.

With Love, Tasha

keysmit · February 2013

Hey Casey..

I've been praying that God turn your situation around.. And i'm sorry that everything with the house is so up and down but like Mrs Bad said, don't let that take away from the importance. What's wrong with getting married right now.. and then have the celebration. something intimate and small and then have ya'll big celebration later.. I hope it turns around, and i hope ya'll can talk it through and come up with a meeting point. Like you said it's the marriage that you want most of all. just keep emphasizing that to him and maybe his little eyes will open... I'm praying for ya... Keep your faith and keep your chin up..

Key

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:81de3525-043d-4666-aa2e-78b745ca2668">Re:Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey sissy...I was just thinking about you.. was gone for awhile too and was noticing you hadnt been around. I was like dang I wish I knew her number or FB so I could contact you. Im so sorry that this house thing has taken a toll on the wedding plans. I just knew that it was over. Its crazy how life throws you curve balls and it makes you want to give up. Does bae not even want to do a jop and a small dinner party and then the big celebration later ? Tell him yall can still get and be married without the wedding celebration right now because its not about that. When me and my babe went on break I said ill marry you today right in our living room...at the end of the day its about the marriage and not the party..ya know ?! Ill be praying for you and him and hope the plans can go back into effective sooner than later. I have faith things will work out..you'll see. Im here too..I cant drive to NO but im here lol
Posted by MrsBad13[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div><font color="#ff0000">Thanks for thinking of me. Every option that I could think of about us getting married I offered it. He has been married before and he is against the JOP...thats how he did it last time. {shrugs} But I have relayed that to him that all I am worred about is the marriage NOT the wedding. Thanks for the love. Check your PM</font>

</div>

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:b3e25f9e-1013-41de-89e1-d5fee457f3bb">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey mrs bad! i see you! I seen your post yesterday but got sidetracked with work- glad to see you back in the swing of things! I was about to put out a buddy check on you! Case- When life throws you lemons- you call your tequilla crew/ national council? I'm way too far away however, I'll drunk dial you up at 11:30'ish sat night -How's that work for you Your time is not now, however, it will come soon enough and i'll be on standby at the airport. Stay strong, have faith, and stay POSITIVE. With Love, Tasha
Posted by footballwife77[/QUOTE]

<div><font color="#ff0000">Yeah Tash I had a lot of Tequila over the weekend. I know for sure who can I call on...thanks!! Saturday at 11:30 yeah I am free..I will make sure to keep the do not disturb button off...I have decided to not rush things. when it happens it happens...I just hope that it works out the way we pray for them to</font></div><div><font color="#ff0000">
</font></div><div><font color="#ff0000">much love to you too</font></div>

MrsBad13 · February 2013

Thats how my babe was...he did the same thing. Like Keys said maybe he will think about it some more and reconsider. He needs to see that this isnt his past marriage and that it will be ok if you went that route. I had to tell my babe that . I checked the PM no msg.

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:13e5c1ea-692c-4914-a037-c5cc6c4bbf25">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey Casey.. I've been praying that God turn your situation around.. And i'm sorry that everything with the house is so up and down but like Mrs Bad said, don't let that take away from the importance. What's wrong with getting married right now.. and then have the celebration. something intimate and small and then have ya'll big celebration later.. I hope it turns around, and i hope ya'll can talk it through and come up with a meeting point. Like you said it's the marriage that you want most of all. just keep emphasizing that to him and maybe his little eyes will open... I'm praying for ya... Keep your faith and keep your chin up.. Key
Posted by keysmit[/QUOTE]
What's wrong with getting married right now.. and then have the celebration. something intimate and small and then have ya'll big celebration later.<font color="#ff0000"> He doesn't want to do something small then something later he just wants to do it all at one time whatever it is that we are going to do</font><div>
<div><div><font color="#ff0000">Thanks...things will work out in the end like they should..no stress no worries</font></div><div><font color="#ff0000">
</font></div><div><font color="#ff0000">thanks for the prayers love!</font></div></div></div>

[Deleted User] · February 2013

11:30 eastern standard? central and mountain? what? nevermind, i'll already be on an open line with a head start into the moscato I was hoarding for the last storm.

seriously case you know I love you and you know I'm more familiar than I'd like to be with this outcome. One of the most helpful things said to me at the time was by my deacon, a talkative italian dude named Tom. I'd gone to the church to ask that he free our date from the calendar and just as I said that I burst into a blubbery mess. He said have you ever heard the word basta? you know what that means? I shook my head. He said in Italian it means simply rest. Not rest like sleep, but be still, put your mind at ease because whatever God has for you is on its way. Just basta. I got outta there with a handful of kleenex and messy mascara. Can't say what he said to do was easy, but it helped me realizing that I was fighting and to stop (not that you are) but I mean it clarified that marriage IS an effort, but not a struggle. With all my toenails I pray that if this is the man God has meant to lead your family then it will be.

Going to find my corkscrew either wh'ay.

mwahs.

RanyattaCasey · February 2013

My prayers are with you. God will work it out girl. As Sultry said...be still....You know hwo the saying goes...Be Still and know that I am God...Things will work out as they should and know that God has your back and so do we. I got the personalized wine glasses ready.let's see....I got one for sultry...Casey....Mrs. Bad....keysmit...footballwife..Cha....I know some more ladies are joing in as we comfort Casey. Be still and God will work it out.

MrsBad13 · February 2013

Tasha...aww thanks hun. Girl I was bout ready to throw all the decorations away and leave that dress at the store. Ha ! Thanks for thinking of me.

fancywright2 · February 2013

We're praying for you Case. Everything will work out in the end. Let us know what you need from us to get through this time.

leatba · February 2013

Case, you said yourself that God has something in store for y'all. Just keep believing and receiving it. It sounds like your FI wants the wedding he didn't get the first time and to not gyp you out of one as well. Ill keep y'all in my prayers

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:301587f4-172b-4cd3-a379-975163b044b4">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]11:30 eastern standard? central and mountain? what? nevermind, i'll already be on an open line with a head start into the moscato I was hoarding for the last storm. seriously case you know I love you and you know I'm more familiar than I'd like to be with this outcome. One of the most helpful things said to me at the time was by my deacon, a talkative italian dude named Tom. I'd gone to the church to ask that he free our date from the calendar and just as I said that I burst into a blubbery mess. He said have you ever heard the word basta? you know what that means? I shook my head. He said in Italian it means simply rest. Not rest like sleep, but be still, put your mind at ease because whatever God has for you is on its way. Just basta. I got outta there with a handful of kleenex and messy mascara. Can't say what he said to do was easy, but it helped me realizing that I was fighting and to stop (not that you are) but I mean it clarified that marriage IS an effort, but not a struggle. With all my toenails I pray that if this is the man God has meant to lead your family then it will be. Going to find my corkscrew either wh'ay. mwahs.
Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow that is awesome....guess that will be my new quote...Basta!</div><div>
</div><div>thanks for offering the overload of Moscato...but I need a tquila crew right now</div>

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:2b2e8b25-8c8b-4635-be86-ed2cae6d48f8">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]My prayers are with you. God will work it out girl. As Sultry said...be still....You know hwo the saying goes...Be Still and know that I am God...Things will work out as they should and know that God has your back and so do we. I got the personalized wine glasses ready.let's see....I got one for sultry...Casey....Mrs. Bad....keysmit...footballwife..Cha....I know some more ladies are joing in as we comfort Casey. Be still and God will work it out.
Posted by RanyattaCasey[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks Hun...I appreciate it. I am definitely being still. Thanks for the comfort everyone...now BACK TO HAPPY TIMES AND WEDDING PLANS FOR YALL!!</div><div>
</div><div>
</div>

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:1621000d-bd13-4271-874b-0c5870038093">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]We're praying for you Case. Everything will work out in the end. Let us know what you need from us to get through this time.
Posted by fancywright2[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Thanks so much!</div>

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:3cf7a411-af26-4780-9ad3-7073e44ceb7f">Re:Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Case, you said yourself that God has something in store for y'all. Just keep believing and receiving it. It sounds like your FI wants the wedding he didn't get the first time and to not gyp you out of one as well. Ill keep y'all in my prayers
Posted by leatba[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I am glad that I have my faith in God to fall back on. Thank you for the prayers! I wonder at times if it is the fact that he didnt get that wedding he wanted...</div>

tirathemrs · February 2013

Hey Case girl i knw the feeling sometime we want what we want and God has a completely different plan for us (as you stated)...You know im here for you and ill keep you and bae in my prayers to be able to get this marriage on the road and done...
I knw that must be hard but dont worry honey its gonna be ok but again im always here if you want to talk HIT ME UP HONEY!!

Love ya

island07b2b · February 2013

Case I know this is difficult to deal with but trust that this storm will pass. I firmly believe that if something is for you then it is easy sailing. God removes all of the barriers. Everything happens in its time and not before. Trust me I know that firsthand. One of my favorite bible verses is Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths". It is a mantra for me. Hang in there and believe. Hugs to you.

TL25 · February 2013

((((HUGS)))) It'll work out and yall big day will be thebomb.com!

CaseynMike · February 2013

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[QUOTE]Hey Case girl i knw the feeling sometime we want what we want and God has a completely different plan for us (as you stated)...You know im here for you and ill keep you and bae in my prayers to be able to get this marriage on the road and done... I knw that must be hard but dont worry honey its gonna be ok but again im always here if you want to talk HIT ME UP HONEY!! Love ya
Posted by misstira[/QUOTE]

<div>Hey Tira! Thanks love. I will be in touch with you love ya!</div>

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:11d4b054-b5db-49af-bd59-68950c33c345">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Case I know this is difficult to deal with but trust that this storm will pass. I firmly believe that if something is for you then it is easy sailing. God removes all of the barriers. Everything happens in its time and not before. Trust me I know that firsthand. One of my favorite bible verses is Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths". It is a mantra for me. Hang in there and believe. Hugs to you. :)
Posted by island07b2b[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks love! I know you know what it is like all too well..Hugs back at you!</div>

CaseynMike · February 2013

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[QUOTE]((((HUGS)))) It'll work out and yall big day will be thebomb.com!
Posted by TL25[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks love! I pray that whatever day it is it will be great!</div>

CreoleBride30 · February 2013

Hey Case and the rest of the ladies!!!!

Case, I think and pray daily about all of this. Lord knows you have been through much. Let me state this - Sometimes, Case, God will allow every single thing we know to be depleted. We become desperate...it's like we are in desperate measures and start scrapping the bottom of the barrell! But God has something already ready and planned for you...for all of us! There is a lesson He wants us to learn. He is shaping and molding us in the way that He needs us to be...right where He wants us to be. God has to bring you through something to make you INTO something. Be patient....allow God to do His work in you and Bae and it will all come together.....As God's children, he has prepared and continues to prepare us for battle!!! Without the battle there is no breakthrough. The bigger the battle, the bigger the breakthrough! And honey, yours is coming my friend. This is not a coincidence...all things happen for a reason. Regardless of the outcome that may be (whether you two remain together or not)....You know OUR GOD is working in your favor.

If you ever need anything, you know I am here. Aint nothing but a chicken wing for us to get together...in good times or bad :-) I love your company!

My bible inspiration for you today: Proverbs 31:25...why? Because you are confident and your hopes, dreams and desires are SECURE in God.

Much love Case,

Cha

OpenHeart0117 · February 2013

Just seeing all the love and support on this board just warms my heart! I will be standing in the gap for you and yours. His will be done in His time. You have a faithful attitude and He will see you through to the path that He has for you. Thanks for all of your support, ideas and advice on this planning journey. Be encouraged !

CaseynMike · February 2013

<div>IN.TEARS.COM....Thanks Cha...I know you are right down the highway from me...I will definitely be on your phone!! Next stop has to be a damn good crawfish, crab, shrimp and turkey neck boil lol!</div><div>
</div><div>hugs Cha!</div><div>
</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:644e4fc3-6149-48f2-8d33-9df60f5c6d1c">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey Case and the rest of the ladies!!!! Case, I think and pray daily about all of this. Lord knows you have been through much. Let me state this - Sometimes, Case, God will allow every single thing we know to be depleted. We become desperate...it's like we are in desperate measures and start scrapping the bottom of the barrell! But God has something already ready and planned for you...for all of us! There is a lesson He wants us to learn. He is shaping and molding us in the way that He needs us to be...right where He wants us to be. God has to bring you through something to make you INTO something. Be patient....allow God to do His work in you and Bae and it will all come together.....As God's children, he has prepared and continues to prepare us for battle!!! Without the battle there is no breakthrough. The bigger the battle, the bigger the breakthrough! And honey, yours is coming my friend. This is not a coincidence...all things happen for a reason. Regardless of the outcome that may be (whether you two remain together or not)....You know OUR GOD is working in your favor. If you ever need anything, you know I am here. Aint nothing but a chicken wing for us to get together...in good times or bad :-) I love your company! My bible inspiration for you today: Proverbs 31:25...why? Because you are confident and your hopes, dreams and desires are SECURE in God. Much love Case, Cha
Posted by CreoleBride30[/QUOTE]

CaseynMike · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:0374cc84-14e7-4d2c-8f41-fcb0b2d25eae">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Just seeing all the love and support on this board just warms my heart! I will be standing in the gap for you and yours. His will be done in His time. You have a faithful attitude and He will see you through to the path that He has for you. Thanks for all of your support, ideas and advice on this planning journey. Be encouraged !
Posted by OpenHeart0117[/QUOTE]

<div>The support here is GREAT! Thanks hun!</div>

MissusD1116 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_catching-up-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:93eb1f72-4e3f-42dd-a87a-4052d3a9534dPost:644e4fc3-6149-48f2-8d33-9df60f5c6d1c">Re: Catching up</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey Case and the rest of the ladies!!!! Case, I think and pray daily about all of this. Lord knows you have been through much. Let me state this - Sometimes, Case, God will allow every single thing we know to be depleted. We become desperate...it's like we are in desperate measures and start scrapping the bottom of the barrell! But God has something already ready and planned for you...for all of us! There is a lesson He wants us to learn. He is shaping and molding us in the way that He needs us to be...right where He wants us to be. God has to bring you through something to make you INTO something. Be patient....allow God to do His work in you and Bae and it will all come together.....As God's children, he has prepared and continues to prepare us for battle!!! Without the battle there is no breakthrough. The bigger the battle, the bigger the breakthrough! And honey, yours is coming my friend. This is not a coincidence...all things happen for a reason. Regardless of the outcome that may be (whether you two remain together or not)....You know OUR GOD is working in your favor. If you ever need anything, you know I am here. Aint nothing but a chicken wing for us to get together...in good times or bad :-) I love your company! My bible inspiration for you today: Proverbs 31:25...why? Because you are confident and your hopes, dreams and desires are SECURE in God. Much love Case, Cha
Posted by CreoleBride30[/QUOTE]

Leave it to my Cha to take the words right out of my mouf!!! ALL OF THIS!

You know I LUB you Casey! We will more than likely be down in N.O over memorial day weekend....you know what that means.....Call-A-Cab's and beignets for err'body!!!!

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