dollar dance

sandy06604 · April 2011

How many of you are doing this? I dont want to but my fiance is really wanting to saying thats what most people he knows do...just wanting to know how many of you are doing this....

chrissy0138 · April 2011

Ive seen this, but I will not be doing it.

tashala107 · April 2011

We're not doing one. I honestly don't get the point of them unless it is a cultural tradition.

starrbuk13 · April 2011

they're actually considered in poor taste by most people - only do it if it's a family or cultural tradition.

Carebear62584 · April 2011

We aren't doing this, we have no interest in it. We had no idea what this even was until our DJ was talking about it and we asked what it was. Our DJ said he rarely does it. Therefore, neither one of us has ever been to a wedding where this was done.

dannie134 · April 2011

I've been having a hard time with this as well - my FI's family has a dollar dance tradition, ours does not. At this point I'm leaning towards not doing it, but I've also gotten suggestions that we could use something other than money (fake money, have people write down wishes, etc.) if we want to do the dance but not feel like we are asking people to give us money.

I would think about how many of your guests are likely to be familiar with the tradition. If the majority won't have seen it before, you might want to skip it to avoid making them feel uncomfortable. And if you do include it, I would have your DJ explain what is about to happen so people don't feel obligated to participate if they don't want to.

estegeman · April 2011

We will definitely not be doing that...We will not be doing the garter/boquet toss either. It seems so cheesy these days and none of the guests actually want to do it...they just have to pretend they do for the bride and groom's sake. lol

Karebear852k3 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_dollar-dance-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:b8dac40c-dd7f-40c8-ae3b-bf0a5dea9d58Post:2a0dff86-da8d-46cf-bea4-d18fe3b3fa49">Re: dollar dance</a>:
[QUOTE]they're actually considered in poor taste by most people - only do it if it's a family or cultural tradition.
Posted by starrbuk13[/QUOTE]

This. Generally it's considered in poor taste to ask people to open up their wallets in any way, shape, or form (especially after they, typically, bought you gifts for the wedding and possibly shower, contributed money to the wedding/shower/bachelorette party/rehearsal dinner/hotel room/flights to the wedding).

Carebear62584 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_dollar-dance-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:b8dac40c-dd7f-40c8-ae3b-bf0a5dea9d58Post:72631f47-6413-425c-a642-6fe5f82eba6a">Re: dollar dance</a>:
[QUOTE]We will definitely not be doing that...<strong>We will not be doing the garter/boquet toss either</strong>. It seems so cheesy these days and none of the guests actually want to do it...they just have to pretend they do for the bride and groom's sake. lol
Posted by estegeman[/QUOTE]

We aren't doing the bouquet/garter toss either. We have very people at our wedding that are single (not married/engaged/serious relationship). Just doesn't seem like it fits our situation.

Abeja1226 · April 2011

Can someone tell me what exactly is a dollar dance?? So far I've gotten that it involves the bride and groom dancing and guests contributing money? Thanks! I've never heard of this before.

Vikki2pay · April 2011

We didn't do it.

mlprck27 · April 2011

We are not doing one. My Dad and Step Mother did it 18 years ago when they got married. Otherwise my FI and I have been to 18 weddings in the last 5 years and have not seen a single dollar dance. I think if its culture or tradition then do it otherwise I think it's a dated practice!

banana468 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_dollar-dance-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:b8dac40c-dd7f-40c8-ae3b-bf0a5dea9d58Post:2acb90e3-04f9-40e2-a158-2c1e86415ae9">Re: dollar dance</a>:
[QUOTE]Can someone tell me what exactly is a dollar dance?? So far I've gotten that it involves the bride and groom dancing and guests contributing money? Thanks! I've never heard of this before.
Posted by Abeja1226[/QUOTE]

It's when guests pay money to dance with the bride or groom.

dannie134 · April 2011

Update: I talked to my FI, and we are skipping it. Turned out he didn't really care too much either way.

The dollar dance implies it's more a token amount of money, but I guess sometimes people still give more. That's the part I felt awkward about, since as PP said people have already contributed $ in most cases for your day, and it's uncomfortable to ask for more.

mckenzie31 · April 2011

i have been to a few weddings where they did the dollar dance....we ARE NOT doing it..like said before it's in poor taste to ask people to pay for a dance with the bride or groom when they have all ready contributed money.

ChellePS · April 2011

Hi Ladies,

I just got married and we did a dollar dance. What the dollar dance is, its a way of sending off the newly wedding couple onto their honeymoon. I'm filipino and it has relevence to my family. Now, if it means nothing to your family or it isn't tradition then yes...my question would be why do it?!? But if it means something to your family and/or its tradition..then you can do. People don't have to put a 10 dollar bill or 50 dollar bill. Just like the name..you can just give a dollar. Its up to the guest. I don't think its poor taste if there's meaning behind it or that its tradition. Now, if your doing it just to get extra money..then that would be poor taste.

-Michelle

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