I really have no idea where to start...My fiance and I have been together in a long engagement. We are a young couple (in our 20s) and we have pretty much been together since high school. He is my best friend and always has been. When we first started dating, his mother was sort of rude to me and I am the kind of person who wants everyone to like them, so I try really hard to be myself and be kind when I meet someone. So, I didnt know why I was treated rudely. She acted like she just tolerated me and I dont even think she likes me to this day. She talks bad about me to my fiance and he and her get in fights about it because he sticks up for me. At first, I thought it was just because we were young and I was taking her baby away, ya know? I tried to put myself in her position. I still dont get why she is so mean.
So, this has been going on for the entire time ive known his family. He comes from a very different family than me. His parents are divorced. Mine are not. My family are huggers, his are stiff. But everyone is different and I get that. I just dont understand why she is acting the way she is.
For instance, We dont have a lot of money , but we want to have a small wedding and maybe a reception at our church. Nothing too large. She was so ticked when we said we might not have a regular reception. My fiance and I are in college so he still lives at home with her and she treatened to kick him out and actually did. He is staying at my house now. She called him a dissapointment and said my ring was ugly and a piece of garbage. She said mean things about my parents and thinks we act better than her, when we have all been as friendly as possible even though she has been constantly rude and ignorant to my entire family and myself. She doenst have alot of money either so It's not like she couldnt put herself in our place. We want to graduate, but we just wanted to get married in our home church and have something small. She isnt willing to help. She just wants to complain. I've tried to keep her involved and have talked to her about planning this entire time. I was talking to her on the phone and she hung up on me because we were not going to have a big reception. I dont know what to do. Should she be invited to the wedding at all??? Should I leave it up to my fiance? I dont know. I'm scared because she wants to break us up and always has, we just thought things would get better,but it hasent.