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Is this tacky or what?

Steve A RenoSteve A Reno
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Greetings,   I have two questions please regarding my sons wedding:
     In the wedding program under parents of the groom, my exwife has my name and then Tim & Nancy (Lastname).
   Tim is my sons step father but Nancy and Tim have been divorced for several years. Nancy has been living at Tim's house for the last couple of years after living apart for five years since their divorce.
  I think just the two biological parents should be listed in this situation.What do you think? 
  Question two: My ex says that she and Tim walk down the isle and that I walk behind them by myself, while my sweetheart of six years sits "IN HER Place".
  What is proper here?
Thanks, Steve 
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Re: Is this tacky or what?

  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    Your son let her do it. So your issue is with him. Either talk to your son or let it go. But please act like an adult. Why do parents turn everything into into a huge deal that destroys the happiness of the bride and groom?

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  • TiffannieFTiffannieF member
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    Although I completely agree with PPs I can see your frustration.

    the "and" typically implies that the couple are together/married.  For our invitations I would word married couples as:
    Jane and John Smith

    And unmarried couples that lived together
    Jane Jones
    John Smith

    If her 2nd ex is part of the processional then he should be listed in the program (although the program all together is not required).

    If he is part of the processional and your sweetheart is not then I would discuss this with your son and his FIE.  Maybe they have a relationship with this 2nd ex but not your SO?  Your ex wife does not get to dictate who gets part to be part of the processional, this is not her wedding. 

    Also be considerate of the B & G.  It's little family pickles like this that get B & G's pissed off and want to run away to elope.  Try to remember the importance of the celebration and not make it about how your ex wife is loco and inconsiderate. 
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  • TiffannieFTiffannieF member
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    Do you have a daughter or grandchildren?  I think it looks really sad when a couple walks in together then there is a lonely man behind them.  Because of this, we asked my DHs SIL if she wouldn't mind being escorted by his dad (her FIL, her husband was the best man).  She agreed.  So my FIL escorted his daughter-in-law down the aisle.
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  • minniehopelessminniehopeless
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_is-this-tacky-or-what?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:214d9148-ad14-4ae9-a899-d44c0665b9dcPost:5a04b863-aa08-432a-aad6-7a51d0960491">Re: Is this tacky or what?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks for you reply.   My son had nothing to do with the finished program. His mother took it upon herself to her Tim, who is her exhusband and now current boyfriend as my sons father. What makes you assumption, that I was not the primary person that raised him funny, is that I got full custody of my son when he was three years old.....sorry dudette.
    Posted by Steve A Reno[/QUOTE]

    Your son is presumably an adult, capable of having his own programs printed.

    Also everythign ever in weddings is tacky. EVERYTHING IS TACKY HERE.
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