Mother-Daughter Dance?

w028jrb · September 2010

So my parents split up when I was 12 and ever since, my mom and I have been really close. I still have a relationship with my dad but for some reason it just doesn't seem fair that he gets all of the special time with me at the wedding. I mean he gets to walk me down the aisle AND dance with me at the reception. While that's great and all, I feel bad for my mom. She has been the one to raise me (by herself) since the divorce.

My question is... would it be strange/wrong to do a mother-daughter dance at the reception IN ADDITION to the father-daughter dance? Any input is greatly appreciated! =]

aerinpegadrak · September 2010

Maybe not strange and wrong, but boring as all holy hell for your guests. Most guests expect to have to sit through the three standard spotlight dances as long as the songs are all reasonable in length (2-3 minutes); anything beyond that and they're going to start to get antsy.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

I agree, the dances do get boring for many guests. If you do it, don't be surprised if people are up and wondering around during some of it.

Is this just something you want to do or has your Mom mentioned it as not being fair to you? You never know, being the mother of the bride is pretty special, so she may not want to even do a dance. Could both of your parents escort you down the aisle? It doesn't have to be just your Dad.

mgietler76 · September 2010

I agree with PP do one or the either but please do not do both. I was at my MOH's wedding last year and she did a first dance, father/daughter, bridal party, mother/son, and a daughter/mother dance!!! I've been friends with her for 15+ yrs but enough is enough!!

mattycam · September 2010

I plan to have both mother and father walk me down the aisle. Just like you my mother raised me so I think it is appropriate for me to have both.

But personally, I would only have one dance and that's for me and my FH.

bbyckes · September 2010

In agreement with pp who aren't keen on the mother-daughter or multiple spotlight dances. Unless you're Ginger Rogers and Fred Astaire, your guests are going to get bored. I like the suggestion of having your mom and father escort you down the aisle. As far as I know dances aren't tit-for-tat. People will know how special your mother is to you without a spotlight dance.

jennifermcbean · September 2010

we are splitting our first dance with the mother/son dance (my dad passed away a fe years ago) that way our guest only have to sit through one spotlight dance

colourz · September 2010

I've often seen the dance start with one, then the other cuts in and other family members join and takes turns dancing with different family members, eg mob and fog

knd0226 · October 2010

I agree with stagemanager. I plan on doing the same thing. Me and my mother are very close, almost more like sister. We have always had a special song that is our song. We have played it at every special event. My sweet 16, graduation, etc. I plan on having the DJ announcing the song dedicated to my mother but dancing with her with her while everyone else is on the dance floor instead of a traditional spotlight dance.

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