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Bridesmaid Hair

LittleMissCutiePieLittleMissCutiePie
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in Moms and Maids
So, I have a question. It's come to my attention through reading these boards that if you want something specific for your maids, pay for it yourself. However, if I ask my  maids just to have their hair "up", is that specific enough to warrant them getting it covered? I've got a bit of a strict budget on my wedding, however three extra updo's will not break the bank. I guess it's more of an bridesmaid ettiquette question. Because I'm asking for them to do it a certain way (but not down to the last curl or anything!), should I offer to pay? It seems that my MOH is content to pay for everything herself, whereas my FSIL and other BM are less so. I don't want any awkwardness when we go to the salon on the day, so what should I do?
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Re: Bridesmaid Hair

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    If you are asking them to get their hair done professionally, then you should pay.
                       
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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
    Eighth Anniversary 1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    As long as you aren't requiring them to have their hair "professionally" done, your request for having it up would be alright. 

    When you go to the salon you can leave it as an open invitation for them to come to hang or just tell them to meet at X time at the place you are getting dressed at or the ceremony location. 
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  • LittleMissCutiePieLittleMissCutiePie
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    edited December 2011
    Good to know! Thanks!
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  • peanutty2peanutty2 member
    Third Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If your requesting that they get their hair done professionally - then you pay.

    If you've just requested a general style - but they have the option to get it done professionally or on their own - then you do not have to pay.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
    Eighth Anniversary 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 25 Answers
    edited December 2011
    If they have to get it done professionally then you have to pay for it.

    Honestly, just let them pick what they would like to do with their own hair.  Everyone has their own preference and they have the right to feel pretty that day as well.  IMO I hate seeing the BMs look like replica card board cut outs.  But to each their own.

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  • LittleMissCutiePieLittleMissCutiePie
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    The only reason I'm asking is because some of my maids don't really know how to appropriately do their hair for special occasions. This has been an issue at weddings we've attended together before. I just thought some guidelines would be good. I'm not trying to be controlling or anything. "Up" is a loose term, and they DID ask for guidelines. I'm getting married in like a year anyway, so I may change my mind anyway.
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bridesmaid-hair?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:5a0f05cf-a77e-4849-8a2e-a399fc3aa033Post:7303f4ff-1892-4665-870d-cc0413a3411f">Re: Bridesmaid Hair</a>:
    [QUOTE]The only reason I'm asking is because some of my maids don't really know how to appropriately do their hair for special occasions. This has been an issue at weddings we've attended together before. I just thought some guidelines would be good. I'm not trying to be controlling or anything. "Up" is a loose term, and they DID ask for guidelines. I'm getting married in like a year anyway, so I may change my mind anyway.
    Posted by LittleMissCutiePie[/QUOTE]

    "Appropriately" is in the eye of the beholder.  You are asking them to wear their hair in a manner that is appropriate to you.  If they have to go to the salon to get that done, it needs to be on your dime.
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  • JessicaCrystalGailAmersonJessicaCrystalGailAmerson
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    u have time to think about it. and ur right u might change ur mind.  id say leave te salon as an open invite

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  • Magdeline687Magdeline687 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I think that if you are asking them to have it up, you need to pay. An up-do is difficult to do on your own, so unless you would be alright with them throwing their hair into ponytails themselves, you need to pay.

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