Anyone else using the wording "Nuptial Mass" on their invites?

_Dagney_ · March 2011

I was doing
Mr. and Mrs. S
Request the honour of your presence at the nuptial mass of their daughter
Michelle Christine
to
Paul Joseph M

Date
Time
Location
Reception to follow

Is that old fashioned? Or out of date?

Calypso1977 · March 2011

if you are having mass it should be mentioned. you also however need to mention the marriage that will be taking place (even though the nuptial mass implies it).

here's our wording:

JLP and PAM request the honor of your presence at their marriage in the sacrament of holy matrimony and the celebration of the nupital mass

date, time, place

you could amend for your situation:

Mr. and Mrs. S request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter, Michelle Christine and Paul Joseph M in the sacrament of holy matrimony and the celebration of the nuptial mass

SaraAndrew2010 · March 2011

I didn't use the nuptial mass wording. IIn theory I would have liked to, but didn't like the way it flowed and thought it was too wordy. We did mention on our website that the ceremony would be a nuptial mass.

lisa89760 · March 2011

We didn't put anything about a nuptial mass on ours. I mentioned that the church is a catholic church and everyone also most likely assumes that we will be getting married with a mass.

mica178 · March 2011

If you have a significant number of guests who are not Catholic, it's nice to mention the Nuptial Mass in your invitation so that guests can anticipate a longer ceremony. Calypso's wording is great. In Catholic weddings, the bride and groom are married to each other (rather than the bride to the groom), so use an "and" rather than a "to" in between the names.

newlyseliski · March 2011

Ours is pretty similar to yours and we borrowed it from a friend, except they said "Holy Mass" instead of "Nuptial Mass"...

[Bride's Parents] &
[Groom's Parents]
request the honor of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass in which

[Bride name]
&
[Groom name]

will be united in the
Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

[date]
[time]

[church name]
[church address]

Calypso1977 · March 2011

i think today you just cant assume Mass, even if its for two catholics. we recently attended 2 weddings for friends wehre both persons were catholic. because they dont like the priest at their parish, both couples opted for ceremony only so the deacon could marry tehm. also, with more and more mixed marriages nowadays, you cant assume Mass.

[Deleted User] · March 2011

We put it on ours.

chrissyann02 · March 2011

We didn't and I don't think it's a big deal (IMO). In addition, I couldn't specify that it was going to be a sacrament b/c FI is not Catholic & will not be able to take communion so it will not be sacrament for both of us.

clearheavens · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_anyone-else-using-wording-nuptial-mass-their-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:189cd341-6c26-48dc-b67c-d2749d5b74dbPost:92f7565a-7004-4034-a2d2-3093b331bc0b">Re: Anyone else using the wording "Nuptial Mass" on their invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]We didn't and I don't think it's a big deal (IMO). In addition, I couldn't specify that it was going to be a sacrament b/c <strong>FI is not Catholic & will not be able to take communion so it will not be sacrament for both of us.</strong>
Posted by chrissyann02[/QUOTE]

<div>Is your FI a baptized Christian? <strong>A sacrament is between a Catholic and a baptized Christian</strong>. The Church recognizes one baptism performed in the Trinitarian Formula... "in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit" and that uses water. That virtually includes Lutheran, Presbyterian, etc. with the exception of Mormon and Jehovah Witnesses, who do not believe in the Trinity.</div><div>
</div><div>To the OP, yes, we included the words "Nuptial Mass" and "Sacrament of Matrimony" on our invitations. We felt it was important to state that those were the two sacraments being performed at that church that day.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't think it's archaic or wordy.</div><div>
</div><div>I think the invite samples we often see tend to influence us. Since the majority of weddings in the USA are Protestant as opposed to Jewish, Buddhist, Islamic, Catholic, etc. we see Protestant wording featured more often (i.e. bride married "to" groom, and so on). I think that's why some people feel "Nuptial Mass" disrupts the flow because Catholic wording isn't what we see every day. But Crane and Emily Post also suggest that Rite of Marriages performed within a Mass should specificy what kind of Mass. It is useful for people to know if it will take the place of a Sunday Mass. And William Arthur and Vera Wang, what I consider haute couture invites, do feature invites in their samples that mention "Nuptial Mass." So that answers the "archiac" part.</div><div>
</div><div>Mentioning "Nuptial Mass" isn't long. It can just be as simple as just substituting the word marriage or ceremony. It's a part of Catholic culture and identity. So that answers the wordy part. I've seen some people put "Eucharistic Celebration" and that's even longer. :p</div>

lisa89760 · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_anyone-else-using-wording-nuptial-mass-their-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:615Discussion:189cd341-6c26-48dc-b67c-d2749d5b74dbPost:0104f949-8dd8-42d0-827a-26c73f498d61">Re: Anyone else using the wording "Nuptial Mass" on their invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]i think today you just cant assume Mass, even if its for two catholics. we recently attended 2 weddings for friends wehre both persons were catholic. because they dont like the priest at their parish, both couples opted for ceremony only so the deacon could marry tehm. also, with more and more mixed marriages nowadays, you cant assume Mass.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

I didn't mean assume as in we aren't telling anyone...we just choose to tell everyone by word of mouth than put it on the invites. Our families do just expect our wedding to be a nuptial mass and almost all of our close friends have asked considering we both did grow up catholic and went to catholic school. I guess we just choose to go the word of mouth route vs the specifically spelled out on the invite route.

mswood1977 · March 2011

We used Nuptial mass on our invitations. None of my family is Catholic and we didn't want them suprised.

dancerbrat531 · March 2011

We thought it was best to include Nuptial Mass and Sacrament of Matrimony on our invites. We didn't want to offend some of our devout Catholic family members, but we also wanted to use it because my side of the family is mostly not Catholic, so it gives them a heads up of what to expect. I thought the wording is actually quite beautiful and not archaic, but that's just my opinion.