Weight-loss tips Needed please!!!

Mattsbride10 · December 2009

I'd like to get back to my pre-baby weight by my wedding date. After giving birth to my son in June I weighed in at 220 and have only taken 20lbs off since. I've only just began to get serious about losing and in the past week I have been doing ww and walking 2 miles daily. So far the scale hasnt budged and I am already beginning to get discouraged. I don't think my goal weight of 130(will settle for 150) is unrealistic but I do know it will take alot of hard work. I know I can do this but I really think I could use some advice or any support you ladies may have to offer. Thanks in advance.

Mrs.LuraT · December 2009

I know a lot of brides have done this video by that lady jillian michaels from Biggest Looser. i can't remember the name, but I do know its quite intense but works. I didn't do it (i'm a big girl) because i had my gown altered early (my seamstress was going to Holland and Belgium the two months before my wedding) so I got it to fit just right 3 months before the wedding, all i had to do was maintain my weight.

miguelhilary2010 · December 2009

My rule #1 is WATER... cut out or limit all other sodas, sweetened teas/coffee, and alcohol. Not only do they have a lot of calories and carbs, but soda has a lot of sodium which can make you look bloated.

I really enjoy using weights and other resistance training. If you dont have time/money for a gym or new workout equipment, you can do exercises that use just your own body weight like push-ups, squats, lounges, "mountain climbers", etc. Women's Health magazine has a website that may help with finding exercises that you can do at home. http://www.womenshealthmag.com/

I know some people aren't comfortable with a hard workout (running, sweating, grunting), but make sure you change up your intensity and exercises every month or so to keep the burn going. You can plateau and stop seeing results when your body gets used to a workout routine.

In my opinion when people "diet" and limit what they can/cant have, they are more likely to cheat or fail. Just use good judgement in picking your meals, and portion control is important. I pack lunch everyday for work so I can have a healthier meal than what I know I would choose if I were to eat out.

See if FI will get on board with the healthy living. Its much easier to be good when you have support. The scale isn't going to jump like it does on The Biggest Loser, but you should notice a difference in the way your clothes fit and your energy levels before anything else.

GOOD LUCK!

(sorry so long!)

Ms.BriarRose · December 2009

I used Weight Watchers. Since they promote healthy living and healthy food choices (unlike places like Jenny Craig or LA Weight Loss), you learn life long good habits.

If you want a gym around here, there's Retro Fitness on Kirkwood Highway that many of my FB friends go to.
I personally like the YMCA- you get a membership with AWAY (always welcome at the Y), and you can use it anywhere in the US. A membership at any DE YMCA is good at any other DE YMCA (there's one on Kirkwood Hwy, one in Bear, two in the City of Wilmington, one in Dover, one in Sussex, and a few other I can't remember). They also offer child care, and personal trainers.

Mattsbride10 · December 2009

Thanks for all the advice girls. Keep it coming!

miguelhilary2010 · December 2009

When you feel like snacking, or are craving sweets, chew a piece of gum or have a hard candy. Dont give in to the vending machine!

RogueQueen · December 2009

If you are interested in trying a "kind of weird but it works" diet i recommend the fat loss 4 idiots diet. It is based off of the idea of portion sizing, eating several small meals a day and eating well for 11 days and then eating what you want for 3 days afterward. I started this diet a year and a half ago and have dropped so far 108 pounds (my goal is 120). I very much like most brides gained weight when i started dating my FI (eating out, not wanting to excerise and spend time with him instead, etc). The diet is not for everybody, you need willpower, but i just keep imagining that bridal gown at the end of the tunnel...lol. Good Luck, you can do ti!

Santorini2011 · December 2009

I am looking for an exercise buddy if you are interested. I am available a couple times a week but only around 6:30pm. If you are interested, email me at santorini06252009 AT yahoo.com.com

I eat snacks and try to incorporate veggies. I need to drop about 20 very stubborn pounds from my lower half. I am determined to take at least 10 off by the end of January so I am up for motivating each other.

MrsJax09 · December 2009

Ahhh the reply I give way too often:

The way I saw it, My hubby proposed to me at 180, he would marry me at 180. Clothes and yes wedding dresses are meant TO FIT YOU not you to them. I understand baby weight (I am entering into 3rd Trimester now) but you have to remember that if you set yourself up for this "ideal weight" by X you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Now taking the view of you want to just do it to be healthier overall (meaning you are not setting a weight by X date) then you need to rememeber that whatever weight you are at when you order your dress is the size you order for. DO NOT ORDER SMALLER! If you lose more weight, AWESOME! If not you will not run into the issue of your dress not fitting.

In all though - your FI knows where that weight came from - a child you two love and share. I doubt in 20 years you are going to look back thinking you look huge. You are going to look at the pictures and remember the memories of the day that you two committed your lives to one another and relish in the intense love that is captioned in your photos. Those 2 elements paramount the day.

Mattsbride10 · December 2009

Mrs jax thank you for your kindness and honustly . You are totally right about all of the above.

btw... Congrats on your pregnancy? How is it going so far? Do you know what it is??

miguelhilary2010 · December 2009

MrsJax, I like your positive attitude, but have to respectfully disagree. She's looking to get BACK to pre-baby weight. Gaining 50, 60, 70, 80, 90 pounds in a short period of time (1 year or so) puts a lot of stress on your body. There is nothing wrong with being a heavier woman (I'm no skinny minnie myself), but if that is not natural or comfortable for a person, they should make a healthy effort to trim down a little. I think its commendable to want to get back in shape.

I do think its insane for the brides who lose major weight just for the wedding. That's not cool. If you want to get in shape or get healthier, great, if its just a superficial/cosmetic goal than I think that's a poor goal to set for yourself. Like you said, FI proposed to you the way that you are/were so why change just for one day?

I do suggest to Mattsbride to set a goal other than just what's reflected on the scale because watching the numbers can be disappointing and depressing. Plus, muscle weighs more than fat, so as a person gets their muscles working and firming and growing, they won't see the scale move much but their body can make major changes.

Mattsbride10 · December 2009

I think everyones different...admittingly its hard for me to just get up and take the weight off for the right reasons. I love junk-food and hate exercise. I am soo thankful for FH he is sooo supportive of me no matter how I look and I love him for that but I think he is a big part of my problem. If it wasnt for my determination to look as amazing as possible on my wedding day and feel and look like the real me again(lately I don't recognize myself in the mirror or pics) I dont know if I would persue weightloss with such fierceness. I guess what I am saying is I need to set my eyes on a prize...just doing it for me especailly when I have an FH like mine unfortunetly isnt gonna cut it for me as sorry as that makes me sound.
Point being...atleast I am finally doin somethign about it...for good or bad reasons...its finally getting done without crash dieting or starving myself and to me thats the important part. Again thanks for all the support...I barely know any of you but I think your all great!

miguelhilary2010 · December 2009

Usually its the wedding gown, bikini, reunion, etc. that gets people motivated

Its hard to be motivated all the time when life is good as-is.

Ms.BriarRose · December 2009

I have to agree with Jax on this- only because it not being natural or comfortable isn't always the full answer. Sometimes you can't get down to a healthier weight.

I weigh 230, and I can't get it off, no matter what I do- the biggest reason being right now because I can't exercise. I have a damaged nerve in my left leg that caused a disease called RSD/CRPS- something I will have for the rest of my life, unless the cure they are working on over in Germany becomes legal here. I eat right (for the most part- we all have our downfall days), but that's not enough- especially when you add in the weight-gaining drugs that I am on and the amount of time I have to spend in bed. Technically, I should be at 150. But I am not, and nor do I want to be this heavy. But I am, and right now, I can't change it.

But my FI loves me for me, supports me for me, and doesn't look at the outside. If he did, he would have seen a wheelchair, a cane, several times a day doses of multiple daily drugs, 18+ procedures in less than 2 years, major surgeries, a huge fight for treatment, and the possibility of no kids due to the types of treatment they recommend. But he doesn't look at all that, which is what you need to focus on.

Yes, getting healthy for the right reasons is commendable, and if you can change your attitude towards junk food and fatty foods, than that's great. But sometimes, other obsticles stand in the way, and you need to remember what this is all about- him and you loving each other, and pledging your love to each other for eternity. Not about looking baywatch perfect in a wedding dress the day of. That's all I am saying.

ETA: I used Weight Watchers before that, to help me with my eating habits. I was active enough at that time in my life to keep the weight off, but my habits were killer bad. My mom and I did it together. I also still have a membership to the Y- depending on how bad the pain is, I sometimes can stand to get in the water (sigh, I miss swimming).

Mattsbride10 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]Usually its the wedding gown, bikini, reunion, etc. that gets people motivated :) Its hard to be motivated all the time when life is good as-is.
Posted by miguelhilary2010[/QUOTE]

You got it!

RogueQueen · December 2009

Whatever it takes for a bride to feel beautiful or comfortable on her wedding day.....

Everybody is different and everybody values different things, but a groom will always be happy if his bride is happy.

miguelhilary2010 · December 2009

I think my message was misunderstood. I'm not saying anyone should get in shape for thier spouse or for an event. I just believe its a lifestyle thing, and a personal issue that each person needs to deal with (whether that's accepting who they are, or wanting to make changes). I dont think that Mattsbride needs to lose the weight, but since she asked for tips on how to do so, I provided that information. I dont think the answer to a person looking to lose weight should be that its ok not to. If I want to lose weight, go back to school, take on a new hobby, I would want to be supported and encouraged instead of hearing that I look fine, am smart enough, or am well rounded enough, you know?

Of course life gets in the way of everyone having the media's definition of a perfect body. We can not all be supermodels. We don't need or want to be supermodels. Activities, finances, injury/disabilities, etc. happen. I know I gained weight over the last few years because I couldn't afford to get a gym membership. It happens.

Mattsbride10 · December 2009

I DO need to lose weight regardless of what others may think because I can't fit in my clothes(lol) and thats why I asked for tips and again thanks to all that provided me with them.

Donnalynn · December 2009

Mattsbride, I'm right there with you. It's not baby weight for me, I lost that a long time ago. I just gained a lot of weight AFTER the wedding. I didn't really lose weight before the wedding, which I should have because I barely fit into my dress, but once the wedding was over, it was like a free for all and I felt like I didn't have to worry about it anymore. So I gained 20 pounds since the wedding, and I hate it. I can't fit into my clothes at all, and I can't afford to, nor do I want to, buy bigger clothes. So the option for me is to lose. I'm like you....I love junk food and don't like exercise. I never feel like going to the gym, but I am trying to exercise more on my machine at home. I also have the 30-day Shred by Jillian Michaels, which I hear really works well. I've been on Weight Watchers for 2 weeks now and so far I've lost 7.2 pounds. I have a long way to go, but it's a start. It doesn't help that my husband also LOVES to eat, and tells me all the time that I'm not fat and he wants me to eat with him, but I just had to learn to tell him no. I'm trying to change my habits. Just last night when we were out, we had cake for a couple of birthdays, and it looked amazing, but I didn't touch it. That's saying a lot for me because I'm a cake freak. But I'm getting there!

So I totally support you!

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