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My Bridezilla

Carson386Carson386 member
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I need some advice here please...
I am the MOH in my friend's wedding. We are close but she actually had me as a BM until her MOH bailed out on her and she just kinda pushed me forward to be the MOH. I feel like just because her MOH bailed that I was her only choice, not a great feeling.
Also, she expects everything of me. I am expected to be with her every weekend getting things ready for her wedding for the next 2 months. I know I probably shouldn't mind helping her however, I have a full time job and I am a full time nursing student. I have told her multiple times that I can't be around every single weekend since I have my own FI and that her FI should also help plan but she jsut doesn't seem to listen. Any advice?? Am I wrong feeling like a second string player because of how I got this position?
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Re: My Bridezilla

  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    You need to follow in your predecessor's footsteps and bail now.  You are being chosen because she needs/demands someone to help her with everything and she thinks it is you.  You have a life and school and you are not in this wedding because she is honoring you.  You are in it to be her wedding biitch.  If I were in your shoes I would step down now
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    No, you're not wrong. You should tell her that you can't live up to her expectations and therefore you are stepping down.
                       
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would explain to her that you cannot devote the time and energy she expects from you in order to be the replacement MOH. Tell her that unless she can understand your schedule and your own needs, you will be stepping down. Don't let her make you feel bad. 
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  • jmconley08jmconley08 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with them. Tell her you can spend certain weekends helping her and that you have commitments/need time for yourself and your fiance other weekends. If she can't accept that I'd be done. I was a MOH after original one didn't work out and I was fine with that but my bf didn't expect too much of me. A weekend to look at dresses, a weekend for the bach party, a weekend for the brial shower. That was it. We also lived 3 hours away from each other. But tell her to chill.
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  • graysquirrelgraysquirrel member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree, she is definitely being a zilla. No BM should ever be expected to devote all of her weekends to wedding planning. Becoming her slave isn't a requisite of a BM. Tell her that you simply can't be there beacuse of your schedule. If she is a good friend she will understand. If not, then I agree with pps, it might be time to step down. 
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  • melissak1qmelissak1q member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe she just doesn't understand. Some people have their otherwise rational thoughts blurred by the pressure of putting on the perfect wedding. I'd try for a compromise. Bailing out all together would probably end the friendship. If I were you, I'd sit down with her and plan a few days between now and the wedding that you could help with specific things. Try to make it fun. After the wedding, she should turn back into a regular girl. Remember, the one you were friends with before?? This will pass. Just try your best.
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  • Carson386Carson386 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you everyone. I am going to try sitting down and talking to her today.
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  • CaitiebobaitieCaitiebobaitie
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bridezilla-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:cb591134-7500-4e1f-9a65-6b089ca43863Post:7d4ff6f2-6246-4b46-8482-d8feb50aefc9">Re: My Bridezilla</a>:
    [QUOTE]Tell her about this great site you've found called The Knot. We'll deal with Her Zillaness.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    This. I have a friend who says that the minute I pull a Zilla move, she'll out me on The Knot. Needless to say, I'm being a very, <strong>very</strong> good girl.
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  • steffenfamsteffenfam member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with Melissa.  Tell your friend that you can help on Oct. __ and Nov. ___ if she needs help with anything.  If she throws a fit then you'll know what to do.
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    No wonder why her last MOH bailed on her.  I would just be up front with her about how you feel and that you cannot and should not have to take on that much responsibility for HER wedding.

    And WTF do you need to do every weekend for 2 months anyways?  Shiit, my wedding is in a month and the only things to do is finalize details with our vendors, which isn't anything anyone other than my FI and I can do.
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