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Name change issues.... any suggestions??

JataliansJatalians member
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I don't know if i should change my name once i get married. I don't want to join it with my current name either my surname has 8 characters and my married name will have 6 which makes it very long. Don't kmw what to do my fiancee says whatever makes me happy...but, thats just the thing i don't know what to do. Any suggestions???
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Re: Name change issues.... any suggestions??

  • JataliansJatalians member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Keep birth-name,,,,,take my husband surname OR adjoin both names???
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    No one can answer this for you, personally I had no attachment to my last name, so I was more than happy to take MH's.
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  • acablitasacablitas member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Agreed with Cheryl.  Only you can make this decision.
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  • ddelo23ddelo23
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    edited December 2011
    i haven't changed mine yet..and i'm not sure if i will.  I have been married for almost a year already.  even tho your name + his is long - who cares?  I may hyphenate mine, and it's 9 letters each name.
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    Dana- your last name will have such a ring to it Tongue out

    Like everyone else said, only you can answer that.  What way are you leaning?
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  • rlb81rlb81
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    edited December 2011

    If you're attached to your maiden name, you could take that as your middle name, and then take FI's last name. I think that's what I'm planning on doing.

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  • JataliansJatalians member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks guys all helpfull suggestions......I think i have to do some soul searching. It's just that haveing my surname for 26 years now its like a body part lol...RlB81 i cant take it as a middle name because i have one loland my first name is Kerry-Ann... Thanks  alot guys.
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with you, I felt the same way.  This is who I have been for 26 years and I have to give that up.  I am keeping my and taking his.  I know a lot of brides disagree with this but my name is a part of who I am.  

    Also, for business reasons it is easier for me to keep my last name.  
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  • matiffbengy11matiffbengy11
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    edited December 2011
    My sister never legally changed her name but she sometimes uses her husbands last name and sometimes she uses hers. Just preference, I will keep mine, because like some have said...it's who I am, and who I have been, it's me. For me as well, I have no brothers so I want to keep the name going. It's totally up to you what you deicide.


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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_name-change-issues-suggestions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:d4dd6df4-1439-44e2-861a-5cf962fe3480Post:d0ca1a20-449d-472c-bd3b-30af3b876547">Re: Name change issues.... any suggestions??</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks guys all helpfull suggestions......I think i have to do some soul searching. It's just that haveing my surname for 26 years now its like a body part lol...RlB81 i cant take it as a middle name because i have one loland my first name is Kerry-Ann... Thanks  alot guys.
    Posted by Jatalians[/QUOTE]

    I felt like that too. I just couldn't imagine suddenly having a different name. I mean, that's the one constant in your life and your complete identity...with that said I think it took me two weeks to get used to the new last name!  I thought I would be so upset and it would be hard to remember, but really I am completely used to it now.  I like the idea that when we have children we will all have the same last name.  It's our family name now, not "his last name."  Anyway, that's just me and it's a personal decision.
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  • DS0305DS0305 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's definitely weird changing your name that you've had for so long.  I'm very traditional and knew I would change my last name.  However, it probably would have been harder if I really hated his last name.  The good thing is that his last name is extremely similar to mine.  The first 3 letters in our last name are the same so every time I sign my name, I keep wanting to finish writing my old last name.  But I'm getting used to it.
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