96 days from the wedding And down a Bridesmaid

badenton · July 2012

So it's 96 days from the wedding and my Fiancee's sister-in-law pulled out from being one my Bridesmaids. I'm wondering if I should ask someone else to fill the spot or just to leave it empty. I don't know if someone would take it as being a second choice or something. Anythoughts on this?

mbuckley85 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]So it's 96 days from the wedding and my Fiancee's sister-in-law pulled out from being one my Bridesmaids. I'm wondering if I should ask someone else to fill the spot or just to leave it empty. I don't know if someone would take it as being a second choice or something. Anythoughts on this?
Posted by badenton[/QUOTE]

<div>Leave it empty. It may be insulting for someone to be "second-choice" and I'd imagine it would be financially draining on short notice.</div>

PetalPockets2012 · July 2012

Don't replace her. Sides don't need to be even. Anyone you ask now will most likely know they are second choice and it could cause hurt feelings.

ericaandtom2012 · July 2012

Another vote for don't replace her. Not only will you hurt the feelings of the person you're using as a replacement, but you will also hurt the feelings of the person you would be replacing.

fishinflagrl · July 2012

I have to agree with PP's, I think everyone by now would know they are second choice. I would just leave it how it is. Its unfortunate she backed out, sorry to hear.

mrshall1027 · July 2012

Don't ask anyone else. You don't have to have an even amount of bridesmaids to groomsmen.

jenny&will2014 · July 2012

Well devils advocate here-this happened to me in my 1st marriage. We lost a groomsman and bridesmaid. We replaced them and even though they knew they were the "second choice" they were beyond happy to be part of it. (granted i guess ours was a little different in that we had a huge fight with the 1st couple and they decided not to be in the wedding and frankly we were happy about that)

RockstarWifey0912 · July 2012

If it were me, I wouldn't outright ask anyone to join, but if someone offered to fill in, I'd take them up on it.

kd1986 · July 2012

Don't fill the spot. You chose the girls you did for a reason. If there's a girl who you'd ask now to fill the spot of your fiance's sister in law, I'd wonder why she wasnt asked to be in the wedding in the first place. I think you're good!