Question for the Married Ladies

donnamarie02 · October 2010

I'm thinking of totally skipping programs. I'm starting to get stressed with finishing off weddng things. I've put off making programs because the idea bothers me. It's just a little piece of paper that won't even make it to the reception. I feel like I should do them to have directions from the ceremony to reception. But, then I think well there weren't directions for any of the pre-wedding gatherings and people found their way.

Now that it's over and done, do you think programs are something I can just skip?

fallbride1109 · October 2010

Absolutely. They aren't necessary. The only reason I did them was because I had an interfaith ceremony and I wanted to explain what we were doing and why. I mean, they are a nice touch and all but don't stress about them.

Hee, I felt the same way you do about menus!

juliebug1997 · October 2010

I did them because we were having a Catholic mass and some of our guests weren't Catholic.

If there isn't anything special to your service like that, then I think you're probably okay.

Jay&Marissa · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_question-married-ladies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a55c0639-fb60-4ada-9eef-2f6973b5dae4Post:d49de09f-8623-41a5-b9a4-7617814f5816">Re: Question for the Married Ladies</a>:
[QUOTE]I did them because we were having a Catholic mass and some of our guests weren't Catholic. If there isn't anything special to your service like that, then I think you're probably okay.
Posted by juliebug1997[/QUOTE]

Ditto. I wouldn't worry about it if you are having a short, straight-to-the-point ceremony. Mine took HOURS to make.

Tiffany618 · October 2010

It looks like I am a minority here, but I think they are both necessary and worth it.

As a guest, I like to know what to expect as well as who is who...etc. I also think it is important to give thanks and credit to your families and friends who have helped you along the way.

It doesn't have to be anything elaborate... just informational. Also, you don't have to make one for each guest... you can make half that many because couples can share.

bsn1752 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_question-married-ladies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:a55c0639-fb60-4ada-9eef-2f6973b5dae4Post:0459ac52-fb4c-468d-ae66-1f33c63204e2">Re: Question for the Married Ladies</a>:
[QUOTE]It looks like I am a minority here, but I think they are both necessary and worth it. As a guest, I like to know what to expect as well as who is who...etc. I also think it is important to give thanks and credit to your families and friends who have helped you along the way. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate... just informational. Also, you don't have to make one for each guest... you can make half that many because couples can share.
Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]

I agree with Tiffany - as a guest, I like to know all of the connections as well. I will enjoy the wedding just as much without a program, but I think that it's just something that people need.

shortgirltx · October 2010

We did not do them and I do not regret it. While we didn't go with the typical ceremony wording like you see because we literally did our ceremony piece by piece ourselves, nothing was out of the ordinary. And we didn't have a bridal party and if you are at my wedding, you should know the bride and groom, at least I would hope.

bsn1752 · October 2010

With that said though - your program shouldn't stress you out too bad if your ceremony is straight and to-the-point... ask your officiant for some help with the flow of the ceremony on the program... the rest is just names.

danac2010 · October 2010

I had so many programs left over from our wedding. I didn't want to do them at all but DH kept insisting that we had to have one. They turned out really cute but I don't even think over half were taken. I say don't waste the time or money!!

juliebug1997 · October 2010

We had one of the church ladies print it for us (she runs that on the side). I know we paid more than we should have but they were beautiful and I was glad that I didn't have to tie all the ribbons myself and feed the cardstock through a printer one page at a time. If I hadn't had the church lady, then we might not have had one at all.

SoonToBeMrsHoz · October 2010

We did programs and had so many people( both Persian and non-Persian) tell me afterwards that they appreciated them because other the usual who is who information, we also had a description of Persian wedding ceremony for everyone to be able to follow along.