We got our first gift in the mail yesterday. It was from a friend who couldn't make it to my shower (coming up in a little over two weeks) and sent me a griddle. I was so excited and surprised because I didn't think most people sent gifts if they weren't going to make it to the shower.
Anyway, FI was so excited to use it (ok for me to cook him something on it, lol). And I said "I'm not sure but I thought you couldn't use any gifts til after the wedding." And he said he thought that was stupid, and this was a shower gift anyway.
I know etiquette wise that if the wedding doesn't happen you're supposed to return the gifts. Does this include shower gifts? I have no doubt we'll get married (but I would hope most people wouldn't!) but am not sure if I'm supposed to use this or not. I'm not worried about jinxing anything, just worried that it's bad etiquette (I'm kind of obsessed w/ etiquette on most things).
Thoughts? Are you using your gifts once you open them? (shower or wedding) If you aren't, is it because of etiquette or jinxing things?