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Joining a ministry...a tad nervous

jessiegirl61610jessiegirl61610
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My fiance grew up in a Christian family, however I didn't, and have only been Christian for the past four years we've been together, so I"m a little new to the scene.  I want to get more involved in our church, and found out that they're having a ministry/bible study for engaged/newlywed couples in their 20's so we are going to start going to that tonight.  I thought it would be a great way to socialize with fellow CHristians, make new friends, and grow in my knowledge and relationship with the Lord.  However, since this is my first time being a part of a ministry/Bible study, I'm a little nervous (but mostly excited).  Since I'm very new to CHristianity, I'm afraid I'll seem stupid to everyone else.  I know most CHristians aren't judgemental like that, but I still can't help but be a little nervous.

Has anyone been nervous about joining a ministry before, or been in a similiar situation as I am?  Or any words of encouragement would help-I don't want to be so anxious about it!
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  • drama1308drama1308
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    edited December 2011
    I'm glad that you and your FI are joining a Bible study together. You will learn a lot, grow together, and build a foundation for the rest of your lives. You will most likely meet people in the Bible study who are new Christians as well. If you are unsure about anything ASK. It's better to ask and to get an answer than for you to be confused the rest of the session. Also don't worry, the other people will not look down on you because you don't know as much as them.
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  • xstarx05xxstarx05x member
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    edited December 2011
    DH & I went thru that this year! We were never able to settle in a new church cuz we kept moving around, but now we're finally settled and started looking for our church home in February.

    It's always nerve-wracking when you're the newbie in any social setting. Work, neighborhood, school, church... I get used to the idea that I already know everyone. I am an outgoing person, but really only with people I already know. So I have to remind myself to introduce myself and initiate conversations.

    That's great that your church has a group that fits you so well! (Which church is it?) DH & I go to a young adults bible study and it was such a good way to get to know others and become a part of the church. It's so much harder just going to services alone. Everyone was really welcoming and receptive (as you'd hope Christians to be!) and they were always getting newcomers, but at the same time there were a bunch of regulars that we got to know after a few weeks. We had dinner with one couple and their kids last week!

    I'm sure you'll have a great experience :)

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  • iamjoesgurliamjoesgurl member
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    edited December 2011
    Small groups are great for building relationships with other Christians who can be an encouragement to you (no matter where you are in your spiritual adventure.  Hope you had fun!
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  • xstarx05xxstarx05x member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_joining-ministrya-tad-nervous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:3e10a8f7-3788-4ac7-934f-203123dc2636Post:1dbb5f8c-56b0-4760-a629-4204bac735a8">Re: Joining a ministry...a tad nervous</a>:
    [QUOTE]Small groups are great for building relationships with other Christians who can be an encouragement to you (no matter where you are in your spiritual adventure.  Hope you had fun!
    Posted by iamjoesgurl[/QUOTE]

    <div>That was so important for my faith. Before I joined the bible study and made new friends, I only had my friends from before I was a Christian. And of course I'm not ditching them. I've always been a fan of the Girl Scout song "make new friends and keep the old, one is silver and the other's gold." Not to mention it would be completely unloving to ditch them. And it's partially my responsibility to try to get them to know Jesus. But I digress...</div><div>
    </div><div>It was so difficult for me to grow spiritually when I only had the influence of old friends without the encouragement of my new friends.</div>

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  • jessiegirl61610jessiegirl61610
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_joining-ministrya-tad-nervous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:3e10a8f7-3788-4ac7-934f-203123dc2636Post:fd15e0fd-7fd6-4277-a2d7-7accee21e85e">Re: Joining a ministry...a tad nervous</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Joining a ministry...a tad nervous : That was so important for my faith. Before I joined the bible study and made new friends, I only had my friends from before I was a Christian. And of course I'm not ditching them. I've always been a fan of the Girl Scout song "make new friends and keep the old, one is silver and the other's gold." Not to mention it would be completely unloving to ditch them. And it's partially my responsibility to try to get them to know Jesus. But I digress... It was so difficult for me to grow spiritually when I only had the influence of old friends without the encouragement of my new friends.
    Posted by xstarx05x[/QUOTE]

    I couldn't have put it better myself!  All my friends are pre-christianity friends, and want to make new ones, without losing the old. 

    Thanks to everyone for your words of encouragement-my fiance (Garrett) and I had a great time!  And most of the couples already knew each other, so they introduced themselves to us, so it made it easier to break the ice since Garrett and I are too shy to take the first steps in introducing ourselves.  Everyone was extremely welcoming, and I felt quickly at ease!

    Garrett and I the whole drive home were talking about what a great time we had, and how refreshing it was to be surrounded by Chrisians.  THe message was about trust among a husband and wife, and was very inspiring-we're excited to go next week!
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  • jessiegirl61610jessiegirl61610
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, and xstar, to answer your question, the church is a cavalry chapel
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  • xstarx05xxstarx05x member
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    edited December 2011
    So glad that you had a good time!

    Yeah, it can be tricky balancing your old friends with your new life. It's so hard for them to understand why we live the way we do, and it's so hard to explain. I think most of the explaining has to come through actions instead of words. I think that's what Matthew 5:16 is about... 

    "Let your light shine before men so they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven."

    I've only had problems with one friend who, ironically, is in seminary...

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