my cousin 'a' called me today to ask if my BM's were throwing me a bridal shower (ya right i cant even get those girls to order their damn dresses let alone plan a shower) I told her none of the BM's have brought it up ...she said since cousin "K" is getting married in oct and coming from outta town she wanted to combine ours...i told her i really wasnt planning on having one since i have been with FH for 5 years and we have everything...i told her its ok just to have one for "K" since she is young and starting her life out and she is going to need all that kind of stuff...i thought it was just really nice that she thought of me........unlike the BM's......(i know i know i said i didnt want a shower but it was never brought up to them and the act of wanting to have one for me would have been enough