Hi ladies, I don't post here much but I've been lurking for a few months. This may seem a little heavy or personal for me to just throw out there... but I'm really hoping some of you may have some advice or experience with something similar.
My dad is an alcoholic. We're very close, and he's a great person.. but I'm worried about the wedding. He's had a lot of episodes of passing out or blacking out in front of people that have really embarrassed/hurt him. He hates himself for drinking, which makes him drink more. If you understand alcoholism, you know what a bitch that cycle can be.
Now before I go any further, I just want to be clear that I'm not worried about my dad embarrassing ME at the wedding. I don't care how either of my parents, or any one of our guests, behave at our wedding as long as they have a good time. But I'm worried that the emotions and stress of the day will cause him to do something he'll regret. I know that if something happens, he'll be very hurt and angry with himself. I want him to be able to drink at the wedding, and I don't feel right asking him not to, but I know that it's going to be very difficult for him to keep it reasonable. It may seem like something silly to be worried about, but it's a very real possibility and it's stressing me out. I want this to be a positive experience for him.
I'd like to address his alcoholism as a whole and hopefully he'll accept some kind of treatment at some point in the future, but right now he's in the throes of addiction and there's no convincing him he needs help.
I guess this was more of a vent than anything, it's hard to talk to my family/friends IRL about this. Please don't quote me, I may DD later.