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wedding dress shopping

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I know it is tradition for the bridesmaids to go shopping with bride-to-be, but I found a dress online so I came up with the idea of an "Opening" party. We would get together to open the dress, have a few drinks and have a giggle session. One of my bridesmaids didn't seem to be thrilled with the idea. Am I being "self absorbed" per say with this kind of get 
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  • kaitlyn&henrykaitlyn&henry member
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    edited December 2011
    To each their own...you idea is not traditional and there is nothing wrong with that, but your friends/family may not understand or be thrilled because its not. 

    I think buying a wedding dress online can be risky, but again its your dress and your decision :) I think your idea is a great way to still incorporate everyone into the shopping process.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    Not everyone goes dress shopping with their BM.  If your friends want to come over to see your dress before the wedding that's great.  If they're not thrilled with the idea then let it be.  It's not required.
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  • bstentbstent member
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    edited December 2011
    I think you're idea sounds great and if one of my friends planned that I would be thrilled to do it. That being said, I love weddings and when I've been a bridesmaid/MOH I've enjoyed being involved in the wedding planning process. Not everyone is like that, so I'd say go for it and plan the evening, but don't make it "mandatory" and try not to be upset if someone isn't able to make it. Just make it fun and light, and focus more on the girls' night aspect than the wedding aspect.
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  • graysquirrelgraysquirrel member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_wedding-dress-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:07332ee2-1564-4ff7-8821-331634311d7cPost:273d4334-93fe-4472-981b-a67a8f141d3c">Re: wedding dress shopping</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think you're idea sounds great and if one of my friends planned that I would be thrilled to do it. That being said, I love weddings and when I've been a bridesmaid/MOH I've enjoyed being involved in the wedding planning process. Not everyone is like that, so I'd say go for it and plan the evening, but don't make it "mandatory" and try not to be upset if someone isn't able to make it. <strong>Just make it fun and light, and focus more on the girls' night aspect than the wedding aspect.
    </strong>Posted by bstent[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this. Like pps have said, not everyone takes their BMs with them. None of mine ever went to a single appointment with me. It was just my FI or my mom the entire time. Also like pps said, not everyone gets excited about wedding things for whatever the reason. If you want to include your BMs on this but some don't seem to be onboard for a full wedding night, I'd plan it as a girls night. Open the dress, talk about it, oooh and ahhh, but then do other things that are not WR. BMs can get wedding burnout fast. This way they don't have to sit through a wedding showcase and you still get to AW your dress.
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  • shopgrl3177shopgrl3177
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't know it was tradition for the BMs to go wedding dress shopping.  I only took my mom and gradmother when I picked out my dress.  The only one of my BMs who has seen the dress is my MOH.  I think what you're planning sounds like a lot of fun, but I would make it more of a girls night with snacks and wine, instead of a mandatory wedding event.
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_wedding-dress-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:07332ee2-1564-4ff7-8821-331634311d7cPost:3ed939e2-cbb9-4ac1-a245-373c2617aa1c">Re: wedding dress shopping</a>:
    [QUOTE]Taking a bunch of friends along when shopping is a HUGE mistake. You'll end up with a dozen different opinions, and someone who is certain to shoot down your dream dress. Take your mom, or one friend, not your entire wedding party.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]


    And a very crowed room!

    I shopped with my daughter for her gown and I went with her to choose the BM gowns. None of the BMs went with us to look for her gown but two of the NYC BMs went with us to choose their gowns.  The other 4 BMs were sent photos of what the gowns would look like.

    The BM gowns were by a NYC designer, Vanessa Fox,  so the 4 had to decide from the photos.  A shot in the dark now that I think about it but they loved them!
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  • snorwo3snorwo3 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think your idea sounds great, but definitely make it optional and don't be upset if any girls choose not to attend. And don't make the entire night about your wedding.

    Also, there is no rule saying you bring your bridesmaids with you to buy a wedding dress. I personally won't be doing that because I find it rude and stressful on the employees working there when there's a large, opinionated group.
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