MOB/MOG wearing BM dresses

Sagenhaft · June 2010

My mom and my FI's mom continuously asked me for about 3 months what they should wear and what color it should be in. I kept telling them I didn't care. They thought I would be upset if they didn't wear a color similiar to the bridesmaids dresses because that's what they're "supposed" to wear (I wouldn't have cared as long as it wasn't white). Well, they teamed up and decided to pick this one, sole thing to agree on. They want to buy the BM dresses in the same color and have them lengthened to floor length and have little jackets made to wear over them.

WTF.

I know I said I didn't care and I can't dictate what they wear but.... seriously? Would I be a bridezilla to draw a line here? I think it's more than a little weird. Matching BM dresses... gahhhhhhhh. Maybe I should just get the BM dress in white and we can all match for the pikshurs.

mbcdefg · June 2010

So what?

Sagenhaft · June 2010

you wouldn't care if your MIL and mom wore the same dress to your wedding?

the same dress as the BMs at that?

KilleenBride · June 2010

try asking them to wear the dress in a different color like lets say for example your wedding colors are : blue, green and black and the BM'S dresses are blue then have them wear the floor length style in ether the black or green. that would be a compromise for everyone and if anything have lets say your mom wear the green and the groom mom wear the black. or whatever your colors are, just do not put ether one of them in white or red. the white is your color and to me it is just bad taste to wear red to someones wedding unless it is a BM 's dress that the bride picked

ring_pop · June 2010

Well, if they're having the dress lengthened and add jackets over them, it'll look like a completely different outfit from the BMs anyway.

If they're wearing the exactly same colour as the BMs (and each other) then I guess it'll look kind of funny to be so matchy-matchy, but if that's what they want, then that's what they want.

Try asking them, "You're the MOB/MOG... are you sure you want to just blend in to the bridal party rather than stand out?" Or maybe "Are you sure you two want to look like twins?" Emphasize how important and special they are in the wedding. If you put it this way, maybe they'll reconsider.

Sagenhaft · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_mobmog-wearing-bm-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:ba3a5875-11e6-4085-bed9-d3379d7e819bPost:b918a470-3c6f-4653-afeb-305664e40256">Re: MOB/MOG wearing BM dresses</a>:
[QUOTE] Try asking them, "You're the MOB/MOG... are you sure you want to just blend in to the bridal party rather than stand out?" Or maybe "Are you sure you two want to look like twins?" Emphasize how important and special they are in the wedding. If you put it this way, maybe they'll reconsider.
Posted by ring_pop[/QUOTE]

That's a really good idea. The weirdest part of this whole thing is that they hate each other and usually won't even pretend to get along... then they find something creepy to agree on.

Thanks!

ring_pop · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_mobmog-wearing-bm-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:ba3a5875-11e6-4085-bed9-d3379d7e819bPost:8baf6593-d5c6-4326-8d64-2aa05903ed85">Re: MOB/MOG wearing BM dresses</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOB/MOG wearing BM dresses : That's a really good idea. <strong>The weirdest part of this whole thing is that they hate each other and usually won't even pretend to get along</strong>... then they find something creepy to agree on. Thanks!
Posted by Sagenhaft[/QUOTE]

I agree with you, that IS pretty weird. You'd think that a MOB and MOG who hate each other would try to one-up each other with the dress!

AmandaK2010 · June 2010

I totally agree. Just remind them that wearing the same outfit will make them blend in and not stand out as being special.

If they REALLY want to match, have them get a dress by the same designer in the same color scheme, but so it is a different look.

That is really wierd, but things happen.

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

I don't really see why it matters. The MOB and MOG aren't really in any pictures together, or with the wedding party. I'm pretty sure that years down the line when you're looking at wedding pictures, you'll still be able to figure out who's who.

arv266 · June 2010

I think this is a hard one, since you do state that they had been asking you for your opinion for three months. Its pretty hard to say - oh I dont care, and then when they pick something, turn around and hate it. To make it easier on them, and you, I think you are going to have to pick out some styles for them to choose from. It is cute that niether one wants to out do the other with the dresses!

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