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Rehearsal Dinner

Danes983Danes983 member
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How far out did you book this?  Also, if someone paid for it, did you make them pick the location?  My FMIL has offered to pay but says she will do whatever we want. But I feel bad bc I know she wants fancy and my FI wants to do a burger joint/relaxed atmosphere. 
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner

  • Reilly626Reilly626 member
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    edited December 2011
    I just booked mine today and my wedding is August 6th, if you are doing a week-night its usually not an issue, but a Friday or Saturday gets booked up.
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  • clarereedyclarereedy
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    edited December 2011
    We booked our rehearsal dinner about three weeks ago for November 10th.  My parents are paying for it, but we chose where we wanted it.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    We made reservations about a month beforehand, but we only went to a local casual place for pizza.

    We had planned to pay for it ourselves, but my parents picked up the check as a surprise that night. Had they offered to pay from the get-go, we would've just told them to book whatever they wanted. If they insisted that we pick the place, we'd have asked them for a price range and for a type of food/formality and then looked for something along those lines.

    I would just go along with whatever your FMIL wants. You could research things together and come to a compromise.
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  • uppereastgirluppereastgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    We booked ours about 3 months out.  My in-laws were paying, so we ran our proposed guest list by them (we only wanted immediate family and bridal party and dates, and wanted to make sure that was okay), but then we took care of picking the place.  I'm from/my parents live in the town where the church is (one town over from the reception venue), while my in-laws live two hours away on Long Island and had never been to that part of NJ, so it didn't make sense for them to be the ones picking.  We ran the final choice by them though and would have changed it if they weren't okay with it.

    I would probably talk it out with your FMIL to see if you can find middle ground or to see if you guys can all get on the same page.
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  • tparty10tparty10 member
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    edited December 2011
    We booked our at about 3 months out too. We are going to pay - so we picked where we wanted to go. We kind of went middle of the road -- not too fancy - but not too casual either.
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  • anglwolfieanglwolfie
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    edited December 2011
    My FI's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, but we didn't expect them to, so we tried to come up with some ideas on our own before they offered.  Once they did, we gave them a suggestion of where we wanted it, then they checked it out and decided it was fine with them.  They went in to reserve the date months ago, but since we're having it during the week they didn't require a deposit right away.  FMIL just gave the deposit and picked the menu this past weekend (RD is in mid-August).
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  • Karma01Karma01
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    edited December 2011

    1 month before. My aunt and uncle did the rehersal dinner so they had some ideas and we told them which one we liked. We did it at Caldwell Flowerland so they rented the space and had the food catered. Worked out great, very relaxed but very nice as well.

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  • sgdc2011sgdc2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    I haven't booked mine yet but the FILs are paying.. they told us to do all of the planning and they will write the check.
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  • stapletondstapletond
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, we must have been super ahead of the game, since we booked our rehearsal dinner venue like 11 months in advance.  All the planning details didn't really happend until the last 3 months though.  My inlaws are paying for the rehearsal dinner, but my FI and I did the research and found the restaurant we wanted.  It was easier, since the wedding is near my hometown, and my FI's family lives upstate, north of Albany.  Basically, my inlaws let us do the groundwork, but they did pick the menu, etc.

    Good luck!
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  • lblumettilblumetti
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    edited December 2011
    We just booked ours a few weeks ago and our wedding is August 27th.  FMIL offered as well to pay for it.  We were able to have it at a nice casual restaurant that was a step up for completely casual, but a notch below super fancy.  Maybe you can meet a happy-medium with your FMIL.  I know mine wanted my input on everything even though I really wasn't too picky on any of the details.  Maybe trying suggesting a few different places and feel it out. GL!
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