Hi Ladies,
FI and I are thinking about incorporating a Mothers Rose Ceremony into our wedding ceremony (sample in case you aren't familiar:
http://www.abeautifulwedding.us/vows_rose_mothers.htm) It's short and sweet, but we both really like the message.
I have 2 questions about potential modifications:
1. Fi and I each have 1 living grandmother. Has anybody ever seen this ceremony where the grandmothers were also presented with roses? (I would obviously modify the wording some. There would be 4 ladies total: 1 mother and 1 grandmother each--neither of us have stepmothers. Even if you haven't seen this, what do you think about it? My only concern is that both of our grandmothers are our paternal grandmothers, and I don't want either of our mothers to feel like we aren't recognizing our (deceased) maternal grandmothers. Our mothers are both reasonable people, but I still want to avoid unintentionally hurting their feelings.
2. Has anybody ever seen this ceremony done where FI presents the rose to my mother and I present the rose to his mother? Sort of a "thank you for raising my soon-to-be-spouse" (except hopefully much more eloquently stated!). Even if you haven't seen this, what do you think about it?
Thanks in advance for your thoughts. We are trying to add some personalization to our ceremony, but we want to make sure the things we add are meaningful and appropriate, and not just for the sake of being different.