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Invitation Timeline?

So... my wedding is June 30th, and last week FI and I finished and printed all of our invitations. We are waiting for a handful of addresses of extended family that his mom is getting for us, but other than that, we are ready to go with the invites, all that is left is to literally put stamps on them (the stamps have even already been purchased!) and drop them in the mailbox. 

This morning FI emails me when I'm at work and says "so I know that we were going to wait until April to mail our invites out, but I was thinking we should do it now. Gas prices are going up which means airline tickets are going up and maybe we should send out invites now so that OOT people can buy tickets before they get too expensive" 

To me, this logic is faulty. First of all, we only have 5-7 families that are coming in from out of town, all of whom were sent STDs back in December. (We sent STDs to immediate family and friends who we had addresses for and knew we were inviting, probably 2/3 of what is our final guest list). The rest of our guests live fairly close or even some who don't plan on driving. I understand that it's only a two-three week time difference in when we would be sending out the invites, but to me, that's the difference between March and April, for a wedding that's at the very end of June. It just seems too soon. 

What are your opinions on this? Now? Later? Does it matter? 
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Re: Invitation Timeline?

  • Invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, so if your wedding is June 30th, you should send them out no sooner than May 5th.
  • I think you should wait, we sent ours out 8 weeks in advance. I do know that a friend of mine who's wedding is about two weeks after mine sent hers in Mid Feb and they are having a hard time keeping track because guest's plans keep changing.
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    [QUOTE]Invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, so if your wedding is June 30th, you should send them out no sooner than May 5th.
    Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

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    [QUOTE]Invitations should be sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, so if your wedding is June 30th, you should send them out no sooner than May 5th.
    Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

    Ditto

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  • i have a question then, we didn't send STD's for a few reasons and planned to send the invites out a little sooner then the normal 6 weeks. so is 8 weeks enough time considering we are inviting people from all over the country?
  • edited March 2012
    6-8 weeks is the norm.  We are not mailing ours out until mid april as our wedding is june 16th.  Everyone we are inviting got a STD.  Just let the oot guests know if you have a block of rooms at a hotel,
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  • 6-8 weeks is a guideline, not a rule. 

    10 weeks is acceptable as well. Much earlier than that is pushing it. 

    OP: I think your OOT guests should be fine, they already got STD's and it's up to them to find travel arrangements, not you. Don't push your mailing date up for only a few guests.
  • It is completely acceptable to send out your invites at the 3 month mark. That gives your guests 2 months to respond and you a month to follow up to all of those people who have not yet responded. Everyone had plenty of time to book hotel rooms and make travel arrangements.

    I was so happy I sent mine out at 3 months, even though I sent out STDs to the close family and friends. Actually it was before the 3 month mark by like a week. It was fun to get the responses in the mail and made the time go by a little quicker. I am sure you are just as excited as I was!! 

    Trusts me. You will be glad you sent them out and you will feel much more organized coming up to the day when you are not scrambling to get your final count down and escort cards printed.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Timeline? : One, please tell me that you pronounce your name Jose and not like a garden hose.  Two, eight weeks is fine.  Do the out of towners know your date?  If they're family and close friends I'm guessing yes.
    Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>lol, it's actually hose like a garden hose...but it comes from my 13 year old self when my sister called me josie hosie, thus shortening it to hose head. when i was 13 it was the trend to have your email address as your nick name, so...and i have sort of just stuck with it...</div><div>2, i have been spreading the word so yes...thanks!

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