Have any of you had to deal with bitter divorcees? I have 2 coworkers, one being a close friend, who have had failed marriages and every chance they get they talk sh!t about marriage and how it's terrible and don't waste your time / money / etc. and "live in sin" talk. omg. It's like dude, you KNOW I'm getting married - stfu about it just because YOU chose the wrong person!!
The issue so many fail to realize is that generally if you've gotten divorced, there were issues that were around well before the wedding and instead of handling that BEFORE getting married - you got married assuming things would get resolved. Marriage does NOT cure ANYTHING. Marriage merely magnifies the issues at hand and then causes those in the marriage to get panicked and feel trapped in the marriage and then they start to resent each other.
Both of these people had glaringly obvious issues in their relationships prior to getting married and then when these issues erupted and turned into a divorce they're all bitter. So obnoxious. FI and I have had our issues - but we've dealt with them and now they're a non-issue. You have to know what you can and cannot handle for the rest of your life and either accept the other person's flaws or just call it off before it gets bad.
Makes me absolutely bat-sh!t insane. lol
