ok, so I have 6 BM, and when I asked them all to be my bm, they decided that they wanted to go to David's bridal instead of say JCP, or Boston store or some place like that and pick out a dress. So I said fine, just pick out your own short/tea length apple red dress. 5 of my BM have done this, the one girl that hasn't I have not been able to get a-hold of. I have been trying to contact her to see if she wants to still be a BM, if she needs help money wise, ect. She lives about 4 hours away from me and I have been trying for about 2 months. to get her to talk to me about this and I can't get her to answer me/return my calls. I have even asked my MOH to ask her about it. I am not upset about this, I just want to know what is going on. I gave up asking her about 3 weeks ago when my grandma died, I decided that the ball was in her court now and it's up to her to decide to contact me.
I had another BM ask me about BM without a dress yesterday, and I said I didn't know if she had gotten the dress yet, but I'm done trying to contact her.
BM asked what I was going to do about BM without a dress.
I said that if she doesn't have a dress by a week before the wedding then she won't be in the WP anymore.
BM got very upset with me and said that I should be trying harder to get a-hold of her.
I said, I'm sorry but I think your out of line, to be totally honest with you, I haven't done any wedding planing in almost a month now. I am behind on planning and I shouldn't have to follow up with someone over something they said that they were going to do, especially when they are almost 30. I got returned mail from her when I sent her a card for her birthday, she doesn't return my calls, texts or emails so it seems like she is avoiding me. I am hurt, but I am not mad, I realize that everyone is busy, but I feel that I have made myself more then available if she wanted to contact me. I'm willing to help her if she needs help, and if she doesn't want to be apart of the WP anymore, that is fine as well, I just need to know. My grandma and my uncle have both died within the past 3 weeks, and I don't think it's fair to say that I should try harder to contact her. I know that she has been in contact with the other BM, so if it is that big of a deal to you then you should ask her.
I have not asked my BMs to do anything for me, so to be blown up at by this BM I was like WTF?! I explained to the BM again that due to the 2 deaths recently that I have taken the time to spend with my family because my family is more important then one day out of my life. Am I totally crazy here to think that my family is more important then planning a wedding even if it is about 4 months away?! Seriously, its one day out of the rest of my life, and yes its an important day, but I would regret it forever if I didn't fly across the country to be with my family during these difficult times. I seriously would love a large bowl of Moose track ice cream or something very unhealthy right now!
