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NWR- Upset

choccovberrychoccovberry member
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Hi Girls,

I know I dont post much but i do read alot of the posts and they are always so helpful. So thought I could vent today and get your feedback.. 
So here is so prior information for you: I see a therapist  for anxiety and depression and have for the past two years. Last year I had a break down around December and was out of work for about two months to get better.. So this year I have had a rocky year with my depression and have had to deal with four deaths in my family. So today I went to my therapy appoinmtnet and she said you still seem sad and she suggested I take a few days off, just to take time for me.. I thought that would be nice to just vege for a few days and then go back refreshed hopefully.. So I went back to work to talk to my boss about this.. I asked her if it was okay to take a few days off and of course she asked why.. I told her a little about me fighting some depression and have had a lot to deal with the past year. She said that was no problem but she suggets that I take two weeks off and come back after the holidays.. She said that a few days wouldnt do anything that i need a few weeks. I got so upset and started crying so I didnt know what to do.. I asked her if my job would be okay and she said it would be fine.. 
I just am upset becuase I didnt want to take off two weeks i just wanted a few days..Sorry it is so long girls..  What should I do? 
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  • rmontpasrmontpas
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    Can you maybe go back and tell her you don't feel like you can take 2 weeks off and see if she will agree to 1?  That seems like a good compromise to me.
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  • bruna29bruna29 member
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    I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time right now. I know you're upset about this, but honestly, maybe you should just take this time to relax, de-stress, and come back to work feeling happy and confident. I have some friends who struggle with depression, and it's not something to deal with lightly. You really need to make sure you're taking care of yourself and your mental health. There's nothing wrong with just taking a little bit of time to yourself.

    If you're really adament about not taking two weeks off, then I agree with the PP's suggestion to see if your boss will agree to one week. You can always go in and talk with her and say something like, "I really appreciate you working with me on this. I've been thinking about your suggestion of taking two weeks off, but I know I'll be ready and prepared to do my job well after one week. So I will see you next week".

    Hope this helps!
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  • becka717becka717 member
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    Take PPs suggestion and go to your boss and say I think this might work better.  Then say you think you need one week off or maybe a Thur Fri and the following monday.  I know that is only three days, but sometimes for me it is a big refresher.

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  • LGM22LGM22 member
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    Hey - you have PM
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  • faerylvr27faerylvr27
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_plus-sized_nwr-upset?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:973cdc6f-961e-4fb0-a628-bef2bb559697Discussion:fbfc5a62-aae0-4359-9156-22fb0564fe88Post:48faa5b1-4fc3-4b7f-bdbf-e99fe1b426eb">Re: NWR- Upset</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time right now. I know you're upset about this, but honestly, maybe you should just take this time to relax, de-stress, and come back to work feeling happy and confident. I have some friends who struggle with depression, and it's not something to deal with lightly. You really need to make sure you're taking care of yourself and your mental health. There's nothing wrong with just taking a little bit of time to yourself. If you're really adament about not taking two weeks off, then I agree with the PP's suggestion to see if your boss will agree to one week. You can always go in and talk with her and say something like, "I really appreciate you working with me on this. I've been thinking about your suggestion of taking two weeks off, but I know I'll be ready and prepared to do my job well after one week. So I will see you next week". Hope this helps!
    Posted by justdance93[/QUOTE]

    i agree with this completely. i hope you feel better soon. i know first hand how difficult depression can be. *hugs* PM me anytime if you'd like to talk
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  • choccovberrychoccovberry member
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    hi pm you lgm
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  • Grits8812Grits8812 member
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    i would do what PP said and ask if you could take a week off, because you dont want to miss out on the pay and you feel like a week could really do you some good.  
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  • OsterizerOsterizer member
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    May I ask what you plan to do during this time off? My personal experience with depression is that I'm better if I'm busy.  Sitting at home does not help me one bit.  I dwell and sink deeper into depression.  It took me awhile to realize that -- thanks to my H.  If I were in your shoes, taking two weeks off wouldn't help me at all.  Take some time off work (a few days or a week like you wanted), but make sure you plan to do the things that you know will help you get back on track.   
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  • MeloneyIrwinMeloneyIrwin
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    Go to your HR department.  Start an intermittent FMLA leave.  You will be covered by Federal guidelines.  Your job is protected.  Your Docotor will fill out some paperwork and you should be good for up to twelve weeks in a rolling year period. Good luck. 
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  • ski2playski2play member
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    Agree totally with PP, go to your HR department and get the process started for an FMLA.  This will protect your job.
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  • KarenofcourseKarenofcourse member
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    Your boss is not a therapist.  Tell her /him you greatly appreciate her thoughtfulness but wish to try to stick to the therapist's recommendation.  Does your company have a policy that if you do not work the last working day before a holiday or the day after you don't get paid for the holiday?
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