so my fiance is not particularly close with any of his groomsmen.... he has a church friend, my two brothers, an old high school buddy, and a mutual friend as his groomsmen. he doesnt want to have a best man, but i already have a matron of honor. and im not sure how to go about trying to convincing him that he needs to have one to handle certain duties or whether to even worry about it at all.
One thing to have in mind.... more than half of our guests are pastors or are from our churches.....
The two people he would consider are not as mature as he is. His old highschool friend would most likely throw a bachelor party that involves alcohol and strippers (which my fiance doesnt want a bachelor party let alone he doesnt drink or want anything to do with strippers). Or my oldest brother, who really wants to be the best man, recently did a best man speech for our middle brother that brought up the fact that the he had been seeing more than one girl when my brother and my now sis in law were first dating.
To try to make it easier I told him we wouldnt do best man/maid of honor speeches but have our fathers do them (since our parents were the ones who introduced us in the first place nd they are both pastors). This went over well with him. I also told him whoever he picked i would support.
So he decided to have his highschool buddy stand next to him during the ceremony but he is still saying he doesnt want a best man.
Does he have to have a best man????? who would we put in charge of certain duties like holding on to the ring, being his witness, getting him there in time and whatnot. I NEED HELP FIGURING OUT HOW TO HANDLE THIS!