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Vows?

KFAW63012KFAW63012
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Does anyone know if there are specific vows that have to go with the rings or are we allowed to tweek them a little?

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  • catarntinacatarntina member
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    edited December 2011
    The vows and the exchange of rings are two separate parts.  You say the vows first, and then you're technically married. "I take you, {name} for my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part."

    Then there is an exchange of rings:  "{name} Take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit."

    As far as I know, they're pretty specific on the wording.  If you omit parts, or change it too much the marriage could not be valid.  You'd have to check with your priest to see if your 'tweaks' are acceptable.
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  • Riss91Riss91 member
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    edited December 2011
    I believe there a couple of acceptable versions (in the New Mass - the Latin Mass only has one). I think you would have to check with your priest about any alterations. What did you have in mind?

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  • KFAW63012KFAW63012
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    edited December 2011

    The ring exchange wording I'd like it to say...

    {name} Take this and wear this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Amen. With this ring I thee wed and pledge to you my unending love.

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  • agapecarrieagapecarrie member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_vows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:feb6fc5d-e1f8-4095-95be-5b300e4baf8fPost:b151a678-ef93-4ba7-bf89-bc7421acf9b5">Re: Vows?</a>:
    [QUOTE]The ring exchange wording I'd like it to say... {name} Take this and wear this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Amen. With this ring I thee wed and pledge to you my unending love.
    Posted by KFAW63012[/QUOTE]

    THe first part is what the church prescribes. The 2nd part is not catholic teaching, because you do not wed with the ring, you wed with the vows.
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  • newlyseliskinewlyseliski member
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    edited December 2011
    We only had one option for giving the rings to one another (what catarntina and agape said)... we did, however, have several options for what the priest said to bless the rings:

    BLESSING AND EXCHANGE OF RINGSThere are three options for the blessing of the rings:&#56256;&#56457; Option A:May the Lord bless these rings which you give to each other as the sign of your love and fidelity.&#56256;&#56457; Option B:Lord, bless these rings which we bless in your name. Grant that those who wear them may always have adeep faith in each other. May they do your will and always live together in peace, good will, and love. We askthis through Christ our Lord.&#56256;&#56457; Option C:Lord, bless and consecrate ___________ and ___________ in their love for each other. May these rings be asymbol of true faith in each other, and always remind them of their love, through Christ our Lord.
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  • doctabroccolidoctabroccoli member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, in the "Together for Life" book, there were two versions of vows, but only one option for the exchange of rings, IIRC.
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  • HandBananaHandBanana member
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    edited December 2011
    The only real choice I remember having was between "until death do you part" or "for as long as you both shall live."
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    The vows have three (kinda) options in Together for Live (can we start calling it TFL? I get tired of typing it out.). They were 1) the traditional Catholic option that ends "all the days of my life," 2) the traditional movies/TV option that Catarntina listed that end "as long as we both shall live," and 3) just answering them as questions ending in "I do." My priest specifically ruled out option #3 before we even discussed it.

    The rings are a blessing and wording as others outlined above. OP, is there a reason that you are partial to the wording you mentioned? To me, seems repetitive to add that you wed the person (to whom you are already technically married to at this point) and that you pledge your unending love when you are 1) already married all the days of your life/as long as you both shall live, and 2) gave the ring as a sign of your love just moments before.
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